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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My best friend is driving me crazy, I can't deal with her everyday drama anymore. I've been her best friend for about 7 years now we're 21 years old, I have never hurt her feelings or said anything mean to her, I've always been there for her, always supporting her no matter what. She, on the other hand, is the total opposite, she wants me to be there for her 24/7 like i don't have a life to worry about. She gets mad at me and threatens that she will stop talking to me on stupid silly things like for example that day she wanted me to go to the mall with her to pick up a dress, but i was sleeping, so when i woke up i checked my phone and saw 13 missed calls and 29 text messages, she was like "I swear to god im not talking to you, why aren't you answering any of my calls, im so not going to talk to you". And whenever she gets invited to places she has to drag me with her and if i told her that i have other plans she gets mad and crazy and i end up canceling my plans just to go with her. I really hate my life right now because of her, i just want to travel somewhere and leave everything behind me, sometimes i wish i was just dead. I really cry so hard sometimes because i feel like i reached a point where i can't handle her and her madness. Even when some relatives come over from a different country, and i get busy with them, she keeps on calling me telling me to ditch them and go hang out with her. She even gets mad when i spend some time with my mom, she tells me "Why are you being such a mama's girl, I never sit down with my mom or take her places, why do you have to take your mom to the mall?". I really hate my life because of her, and i'm afraid to breakup with her because she's my only friend and i'm afraid of ending up alone. She even got mad when she knew that i got accepted to a job and she didn't, she told me not to accept that job because we wouldn't be together. But i didn't listen to her, now i don't know how to tell her i accepted the job, she'll freak out on me. HELP PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (8 July 2012):
 It sounds like she has an obsessive-compulsive disorder and is taking it out on you. I would tell her as calmly as you can that you care about her, but cannot be there for her every minute of everyday. Then, I would tell her how she has made you feel. If she continues on the same path, I would go no contact with her. To me, this is no different than having a boyfriend who pesters, stalks, and verbally harrasses and abuses you all the time. You need to tell her how you feel and what you want. You could even tell her that you think you need some time apart because you cannot deal with it anymore. If she doesn't respond in a positive way, you go no contact with her. You block her from all of your devices, etc. You do not answers calls, texts, or emails. You need to protect yourself emotionally because she is abusing the friendship. A friend who makes you feel like a caged animal is not a friend.
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