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writes:Hi,I have a problem that has really disturbed me and I dont know what to do.I recieved a text message last night from one of my friends, basically telling me that she was seeing my ex boyfriend. I do not see this mate very often but she is a really lovely girl.The thing is she knows just how awfull this guy was to me, I often went to her crying and ended up on anti-depresents. I probably did the wrong thing by warning her and reminding her just how bad he had been to me. She said that things would be different for her as they really liked each other. So I wished them well, although I dont know why because he is a pig.I thought that would be the end of it until this morning when I recieved a text from him, telling me she had shown him the text and that i shouldnt inter-fear and mind my own business. He got really nasty, and although the old feelings of being scared of him came back. I told him to F*** Off and put the phone down on him.Now I have found out he is calling me a liar and saying I exagerated to everyone how he treated me. (this guy broke my arm and dislocated my shoulder, and that was not the worse thing he did).I helped this man build up a business that is now worth a fortune and walked away with nothing to get away from him.I just cannot believe what he is saying about me. When I left I thought I would be rid of him but it feels like he is still trying to ruin my life. Even though he is supposed to be so happy.Any veiws please.X Thanks
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (19 September 2007):
TELLULAH is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi,Thanks for all the advice. I really do apreciate it. And I am going to do exactly that and let them get on with it. Hopefully she will not end up in the same state that i did.Thanks again XXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): This man is no good. You must walk away from him and the friend, she has been warned and the rest is up to her.Some people like to think they can change men like him and end up just as the line of women before them.
I know this will be hard to just let them get on with it when you know what he can be like but you have no need to be involved now.If I were you I would be tempted to change my number and cut them off completely. You can be civil when you see them but dont get involved. All you can do is be there for when she is hurt....and try not to say I told you so. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): Just don't talk to him anymore, or the friend. She is probably aware that he treated you badly. Why would you lie about your own (at the time) boyfriend being awful to you? She is probably only into him because of his sucessful business. For his money. It all comes out in the wash, as they say. She will find out on her own what a jerk he is. It will take some time but she will.
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reader, L.O.S.E.R.  +, writes (18 September 2007):
 Your so called friend is not a lovely girl,she's a mean bitch-I got so irritated while reading this all.Stop communicating with her or him and try to forget about it all cause you can't change a thing and you might get hurt even more.Dunno,you'll see how others will reply you,all I can say is that on my opinion no one who physically hurts anyone weaker then him deserves to be out of jail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): I believe that the "truth" always comes out. If I were you I would just be glad that he is out of your life. Thank your lucky stars for that. And be proud of yourself that you tried to warn your friend. You did the best you could. I think you did the right thing. Forget what he said. OF course he is pissed. This guy is clearly kind of crazy. He doesn't see the world rationally and he doesn't see himself for what he really is. He is just talking bad about you because he knows he has a lot to defend. If what you were saying were a lie, he wouldn't care. It's because the truth hurts. But you did nothing wrong. And his true colors are going to come out. And eventually this friend is probably going to come crying to you for a shoulder to cry on. And everybody is going to see him for what he really is and realise that you are not a liar.
So in the meantime, just let them be and don't worry about what he is saying about you at the moment because in the long run, the truth is going to come out.
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