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writes:one of my friends is hangin out wiv my girlfriend and puttin his head on her lap and being very obvious about it wot am i meant to do Reply to this Question
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (17 June 2008):
 Why is your girlfriend letting your friend put his head on her lap in the first place?
That's the first thing you should be asking, why is she accepting his advances?
You need to talk to your friend and tell him to back off. It's your girlfriend not his and he needs to know that you don't like what he's doing.
You also need to ask your girlfriend to stop letting him make moves on her, it looks bad on her part that she's letting him even though she's with you.
Just stay calm when you're talking to them and don't be quick to accuse anything; they may say that you're being paranoid or you don't trust them and the situation could get out of hand.
However if you don't see any change, dump the girlfriend and get rid of the friend. Neither of them are any good for you
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reader, Sophia_Sweetheart +, writes (17 June 2008):
 Sweetheart, go talk to him! Ask him what he thinks he's doing! He has no right to act like that when he's your friend and it's YOUR girlfriend! It seems so immature too. You must feel very betrayed. Also, is your girlfriend acting all okay with this? It just seems a little strange to me babe that she's letting him get away with putting his head on her lap. Does she like the attention? Or is it something more? These should be two people you trust, not worry about together.
So the only thing to do here sweetheart is talk to them both - seperately of course, unless you'd much prefer to do it when they're together. Although this may be a little awkward for them!
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reader, LonleyBoy1986 +, writes (17 June 2008):
Be very careful about how you approach this situation. If you and you girlfriend are happy together, and you trust her, then it should have no impact on your relationship. Take it from someone who has recently lost his girlfriend due to being paranoid about exactly this kind of thing, and approach it carefully. Tell him you think he is out of order, and maybe tell her, carefully, to watch him when he is around her, and make sure she's not giving any signs she might be interested back. When all's said and done, if he's really coming on to your girl, then is he the friend you think he is?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 June 2008):
 You are meant to talk to him right away. You are meant to tell him that you have noticed he's making too many moves at your girl, and you want him to stop. If possible, wait for him to put his head on her lap, and ask the question in front of her. Why is she letting him do that? That's another question you should ask.
If you don't see any change after you make clear what you're seeing into it, dump the girl and end the friendship. A guy who tries to get YOUR girl is no friend. A girlfriend who lets another man flirt with her is no good, either.
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