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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have recently made friends with a girl my age. She is a lesbian which isn't something that bothers me. While chatting a few days ago she said that she would really like to sleep with me. She told exactly what she would like to do me. At the time I have to admit it did begin to turn me on. However I aren't gay and felt compulsed to say no. Since then I haven't been able to stop thinking about her and the things she said. Should I sleep with her and if I did would she expect more. I have been bi curious before but never acted on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010): Be clear from the start: you're bicurious, it's your first time with a girl, and not romantically interested in her.
Once she knows about that and that you've made it clear it's not the beginning of a romantic relationship, I would say to go for it. It'll be a new experience and perhaps you'll find it quite enjoyable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010): Damn people, what are you talking about? Two girls who want to have sex with each other should ALLWAYS do it. AllWAYS.
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reader, oliviababes +, writes (20 October 2010):
 i would, it sounds so inviting!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): If you want to f*** up a perfectly good friendship, then yeah.Cause if it goes sour, you've then lost a friend as most friendships cannot survive being turned into a relationship.You don't F*** your friends.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): Well...the decision is yours, not ours, but if you like her and you're excited by the idea - why not?
And it sounds like you're intrigued by her, but maybe a bit nervous about the fact that she's a girl too. Don't let that stop you if you two are attracted.
One concern is that you've already rejected her proposition, or at least 'said no' and not acted on it. Maybe she took you at your word (why wouldn't she?) and thinks you're not interested. Have you spoken since? If she's really into you, I'm sure she won't be unhappy if you let her know you've changed your mind.
Hope it works out ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): How close a friend is she?
You aren't gay, but are "curious", and would you risk the friendship for a curiosity.
Think about that.
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reader, glassblower  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Sleeping together, whether male-female, male-male, or as in your case, female-female, is a huge decision that can affect everyone involved. If you feel comfortable with it, then by all means! But be careful, because she and you might wind up caring for one another and as you brought up, she may expect more. Good luck! xoxo 3 glassblower
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reader, TimmD +, writes (19 October 2010):
 The decision is entirely up to you. If you are curious than why not try? Just make sure she knows to take it slow and not do something you don't want to. There's nothing wrong with experimenting with a friend. Most importantly there should be no pressure for you.
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