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writes:okay hi, my friend has a huge problem. he's a male, 16, and can't really seem to get a girlfriend. hes a really sweet guy and perverted but in a joking way. and every time he likes a girl, they always seem to stomp on his heart. i suppose sometimes he comes on too strong with the pervy comments and jokes, but hes trying not to. his self-esteem is really low right now. this is the third time its happened, and i feel really bad for him. please help! he keeps complaining and i can't stand it anymore! THANK YOU!
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (6 September 2009):
 I'm sure this guy is very nice, just tell him personally what puts you off guys and that sometimes pervey jokes just leave the impression of being pervey and not really interested in a relationship!
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reader, hearrtbrrokengirrl +, writes (5 September 2009):
WELL..tell him to not be so pervy, becuase from experience. they dont really joke about that kind of stuf. perves are perves. it may seem like hes joking but i dont really think he is. just tell him to lay low on the perve talk and maybe he'll find the girl thats right for him. or even better tell him to find a girl who actually enjoys that. good luck with that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): Number one: he needs to work on his self-esteem. One generally needs to learn to be their own best friend before they can start to have meaningful relationships with others. I would recommend you point him to the article on self-confidence - you can find it by clicking on the "Articles" link at the top of the page.If he does the above, I would be very surprised if he no longer felt the urge to make the pervy jokes and comments, and thus keep turning potential girlfriends away. Fix yourself, and the world's your oyster.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): Why don't u date him?? or set him up with one of your friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): Wait, did you just use this site as a dating service... awesome.I think you really need to stress that he gets those perverted jokes straight out of his system because that kind of humor can be very intimidating and drive you away from girls you like. His sweet guy nature is being overshadowed by hs explicit jokes.Second thing is his self-esteem. How can he convince a girl to like him when he can't convince himself? That's where you come in. You have to reassure him as a friend and although it's obvious that you've been doing so, you need to keep at it.Lastly, I'm still surprised you used the sight for match making purposes! I'm a guy so I ain't interested but I'm sure he'll find someone.GOOOD LUCKKK
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