My friend has gone into overkill in expressing her feelings and its really starting to affect our friendship!

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

ok so i'll try to make this short. I was hanging ou with 2 of my friends and we had a great time (non sexual) and fell asleep together. we're all bi and the friend that i have feelings for also likes me, but we decided to stay friends. That issue's resolved, but then there's the other friend, lets call her Jane. jane told me later that she really liked me as more than a friend. When i told her that i was flattered, but there was someone else i already liked, she went bulldozing. After that i'd get all these texts from her about how she loved me and wanted me and couldn't wait to hear my voice. She'd also leave voicemails with the same thing, calling me her drug. Whenever i'd see her she'd hang all over me, trying to feed me or hold my hand. i've told her over and over she needs to stop being so clingy over me and back off. Then i reminded her that there was already someone i liked and she goes crying to the other friend (who was the one i liked) thankfully that friend told me the things she was saying. But she's trying her best to find out who i like so that she can, in her own words "push them away and get me for herself" luckily she can't because neither one of us will tell her. now since then she's tried to get me to sleep over at her house alone and keeps trying to sext with me....honestly i didn't mind her telling me she liked me, i was flattered, but now she's gone overkill and it's seriously interfering with a) our friendship and b) my work..as she keeps showing up there and trying to talk to me since i won't return her messages. I'm at a loss as to what to do. bad as it sounds, a friend and i tried pretending we were dating so she would back off, but she went nuts and got really pissed off at us.

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