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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Recently one of my close friends has changed dramatically. She used to be really nice and trustworthy and very counsious about not hurting people. (She didnt even belive in bitching!)She has loads of nice guys after her and is leading them all on(basically being a prick tease), which i am not happy with as they r all my good friends and i know that none of them stand a chance.The only guy she is interested in is the guy she knew i was interested in. When me and the guy were seeing each other, she flirted openly with him in front of me. I didnt say anything at the time to her and now she is practically going out with him. I feel like i have lost a close freind because i dont trust her anymore. Has she acted out of order? Am i right to feel angry and upset? How do u deal with being around someone you dont like anymore or trust?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have no idea what prompted the change at all but she has hurt quite a lot of people due to her actions over the last couple of months! She was confronted about some issues and she apolgised but is still doing the same things so obviously she doesn`t care.Thank you for all your advice- it was a great help! Xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): This girl was never a friend if she could do something like this, she is a no one okay? It is very right to be angry and upset as she has hurt you plus she has cost you a boy that you loved, if he ever dumps her and she tries to come crawling back to you just laugh and turn your back on her and this will happen because I think this boy is only trying to make you jealous. Love from Helen XXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): I think your friend is just discovering the power of being an attractive female, and she is enjoying all of the male attention she is getting, and she is using her power over men....she sounds like she may be becoming a rather manipulative young woman, which is too bad for her.
Friendships have seasons, and if this one has run its course and you don't feel like being her friend anymore, then you owe it to her and to yourself to be honest about it....just explain what is in your heart, wish her well, and close the door on the friendship if that is what will make you feel better. You can't change her, she has to wise up and do that on her own, and at her age, I don't think she will do that any time soon.
I know it sucks to lose a good friend, but it will happen to you throughout life, it makes you appreciate the friends you make for life, and those are few and far between.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): this is happening to me right now. In all of my classes i met this girl. And we met in the 8th grade. And now she has changed and has blurted. So i dont trust her anymore. It hurts because he used to be best friends. But i no it was for the better. I just kept away and did my own thing.
just dont tell her any secrets, this way the trusting thing you dont have to worry about. And i really dont like her any more. My friends that i do like and trust dont like her.
I had a play date with this girl in the 8th grade and my dad said to me that there was something about her that wasnt right. Now when ever someone says something like that i okay it and stay away. So try something i have said and something things that will help you that you think of.
Love,
anonymous
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (3 June 2007):
 Not what i would call a friend who you can rely on.
What prompted her change?
You need to seperate yourself from her to let her know you wil have nothing to do with er while she acts in this manner. She knew how you felt for this person and openly flirted infront of you and showed no respect in the slightest for your friendship.
Dont waste your time here, she has got some probels which have prompted her to change in this way and is going around hurting everyone around her in the process with no concern of the damage she leaves in her wake.
The most you can do is voice your concern to her, but i expect that to fall on deaf ears. It has to hurt to watch what she done to you, but know that if the bloke you were interested in felt anything worthwhile for you he wouldnt of followed through with his actions.
R
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reader, willem  +, writes (3 June 2007):
 what does the word friend meen............. 1. love 2.trust
3.a bond to look after each others feelings. your so called friend has broken all 3 things that makes someone a friend ,so why still call her a friend? i think ,from what i take out of ur story, that even a dog would b a better friend .................
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): Darling ive had this happen when i was younger. But not anymore as it is soul destroying it gets you down and depressed, its difficult if she is in the same circle of friends as you. Have you tryed talking to her telling her how sad she is making you feel. If you have then all i can say to you is take a step back, you say you have other freinds ..Take some time for you and talk maybe to someone you can trust i really feel for you its not nice to loose the trust of someone you care about you sound so lovely and caring, im here if you want to chat anytime i log in all the time when my children are busy playing or have gone out dont go through this alone take care of you xxx
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