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female
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30-35,
*XBeccaTxX
writes:There's this girl in school,Kerry.She can be quite nice but most of the time she just IS NOT.I used to think she had anger problems but,after the teachers finding out about her actions i know she CAN hold back and she's just plain vicious.THE ARGUMENT:There was this one time when we got in to an agrument because she "accidentally" spilled chocolate milkskake over my m8. An her and another friend where laughing and making stupid comments that really didn't help,i told them to stop because they wre both being imature and my friend would get grounded.And then the other friend insulted me so i called her a bitch.She then started saying."i get blamed for everything",and attention seeking like she always does. So i ignored her and they walked away.Kerry(the vicious one) told the head of year but changed the story to make it worse...we got in to soooooooooooo much trouble for that!!!Basicly nothing...But that's not the point.My friend has always been more mean to me than the others because i'm easy to pick on because of my "past" and a STUPID RUMOUR to do with my ex.Although she is horrid to the rest of them as well.I have tried telling that i am being bullied once but i decided to give her one last chance.because after all she is my friend. But she is still VERY mean,shE does'nt use AS MUCH physical now.but instead uses rumous that she thinks are jokes and hurtful comments that hurt me even more than the physical bullying. My Mum knows,and so do most teachers of her behaviour but if i got my Mum down the school to sort stuff out I would be moved and not her and even if se did get moved my friends would be to scared to be friends with me because of her reaction.I DO like Kerry.but all of my m8s,when i ask them about her don't unerstand what she does to me and how much she hurts me.There is litteraly nothing i can do and in my past i have sufferd from emotional problems and it has taken me a long time to get back to normal. But i think she is bringing it back! I SERIOUSLY DO LIKE HER(when she's nice she can be a gd friend,she just has to stop the bulling)I'M LOST,PLEEEEEEEEEESE HELP!!!because if i take any action it could ruin my great relationships with the rest of the gang...
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reader, anoyingmeeeeeeee  +, writes (13 August 2010):
If your friends bully you then stop hanging round with them and find new friends.I was like you and when i made new friends there were cool and all
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 A good friend would NOT be nice one minute and then bully you the next. This split-personality behavior of hers isn't normal, it's being incredibly manipulative. I don't understand how you can write to complain about all the pain that she has caused for you and then turn around and state that's she can be nice or good and that you wish to remain friends. I recommend that you see the inconsistency here and realize that YOU don't have any control over when exactly she is going to blow hot and cold, therefore, it's impossible to ever consider her a friend. I would consider her to be hostile, and a person who DOES NOT have your best interests at heart. I would not confide in her, hang with her or seek her out. I would try to put as much space between you and she as possible. Any actions that you take against this girl just feeds the fire, so don't go there. There is no need for you to slink down to her level, and if you allow yourself to act out that way - then there are TWO people behaving badly! 2 wrongs don't make a right. If she does inflict any more pain on you or your friends, just remember that you should tell you Mom and report the incident to your teacher too. I would love to tell you that this doesn't happen when you get older, but I'm sure that your Mom and Dad know people like this at their office! Consider it an exercise in trying to get along with impossible people.
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