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writes:What should I do? There is this girl st school. and today during P.e. she asked me to spend the night with her. so i said sure. because she is one of my good friends. then she said and "while we are at my housee..... we can, you know..." and and so i just laughed it off.and she said, "no im not playing."then she started asking me that if she was a boy but looked exactly like she does now, would i have sex with her? then i told her im only 14; i dont even think of doing that with boys. and then she said, "well if you were a boy i would have sex with you." and and so i just started laughing and said she was reterded. because i didnt know what to say in a situation like this.Then she said, "well okay. we can just have sex [[with our clothes on]]"talk about scary!then she said that if i tell anybody she asked me all this, she was going to tell everyone that i agreed to having sex with her and tell everyone that we did "it"what should i do in a situation like this?im only 14, i have never been in something like this.I dont know what to say or do.please help!soon! i have school with her tomorrow...[[every class]]:/ Reply to this Question
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (26 September 2007):
 Some people mature sexually quicker than others, and very often from your age onwards people will want to experiment.
Obviously she is embarassed and doesn't want you to let the whole school know about her proposition. She obviously caught the wrong vibe from you and is feeling embarassed. It's not niceof her to have threatened you, but I would just ignore that. I seriously doubt she will say anything.
You should say to her that you want to remain friends (if you do) and tell her that you don't feel that way about her, or any other girl for that matter.
It's a very common thing, trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): I completely agree with rcn, Someone that at your age wants to manipulate you to keep secrets like that, rings alarm bells for me. I think you should tell her you like her friendship but you are not interested in that way. I think it might just be an age thing, she is probably curious and thought she would ask someone she trusts to help her work things out. Dont go there.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (26 September 2007):
She sounds mixed up, you should no go to spend the night with her.
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reader, rcn +, writes (26 September 2007):
 You tell her NO. I'll tell you why. Anytime someone says "if you tell everyone" that's not good behavior. Tell her you're just not ready. You won't tell anyone, if she doesn't ask again.
Girl, I've hear of jams, but this one has to top the list. At your age I hear many stories of boys trying to get it with girls, I don't hear much about girls trying to get with other girls.
Think of this way also. If you gave in to her and this did happen, would you look at your friend differently? Is the friendship worth risking over one night?
I wouldn't be harsh. I'd let her down easy. I had a boy ask if he could do something to me when I was 17. I told him, If I wanted that, I'd find a girl to do it. He never brought it up again.
I am sorry you're going through this, at your age, school should be your worries, not a training lesbian.
Good luck.
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