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writes: Okay so my bestest bud always feels bad for herself, even though she just gets really moody. We are both 15. I have a friend group of four girls at my school and shes constantly bitching to each of us about how she hates her life, and i know that each of the other girls in my group have it tougher than her, one girls parents are going through a divorce, my other friend gets really badly bullied and was abused by her boyfriend, and one of my parents tried to overdose and was an alchoholic, and i am currently seeing a therapist and i am on antidepressants. Shes always complaining about problems that other people would gladly swap theirs for, and she causes most arguments. Its really frustrating becasue i always feel like i have to ask her to think about me, and she just seems really self centred. please give me some advice, thanks for your time. hugs and kisses ooo
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn response to TalkingHelps, my point about having to ask her to think about me was talking sorrt of metaphorically. I dont actually say shut up and talk about me or anyhting, its just friends should have an even relationship and it seems like its always tilting her way. She should give me the same respect and time that I give her, and i was asking for advice on how to get that respect.
anyways, thanks for everyones input i really appreciate it. xxoo
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): "Its really frustrating becasue i always feel like i have to ask her to think about me" - now that seems a tad self scentered of you. Some people tend to be more dramatic then others, and some people enjoy complaining, it's probably just her personality. i guess she's an only child or has an older sister. But anyways, you didn't give details about what she complains about so i can't really say. Though try and take her problems seriously, and then jokily say ah come on at least u haven't been raped. And play them down nicely, hopefully she'll do it less then.
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reader, Phoenix-Rose  +, writes (15 June 2008):
Ok i was in this exact same situation where she made out her life was bad when the 4 of us were a lot worse off than she was. She was pretty, confident and got lots of guys but in the end she caused a lot of arguments over petty little things and the 4 of us realised that we were stonger and better than her dragging us down with her so in the end we lost touch with her and the 4 of us have never been happier and we are now stronger than ever and closer than family. I'm not say ing you should chuck her but you should remind her that she is not the only one with problems and that there are others worse off than her
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reader, M!  +, writes (15 June 2008):
 thats how my friend was. she was always talking about how much she hated her life. i thought that she was just having a couple bad days and that she would get over it. because i went through a lot of bad things in my life and i finally got over it. but what i didnt know is that she was really depressed. and i wish i would of done something to make her feel better because she ended up killing herself. and that was the worst day of my life.
so if i were you i would just talk to her about it. and let her know you'll always be there for her. and talk to her about whats going on with you. because friends need each other to help each other out.
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