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writes: I think I have a crush on my best friend. She treats my like total crap but theres something i really like about her when im all vulnerable, but i know that sometimes she makes me feel really bad about myself. is ther something wrong with me? i cant help it we have been friends since we are babies and im 16 and am i a lesbian? i have never kissed a guy before. whats wrong with me i always seem to be thinking about her!
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (18 June 2008):
 Completely sweetheart, your feelings for your friend are pretty screwed up to so don't rush yourself into anything.
You can fool around with this guy if you want but if you do want to have full sex then make sure that you are on the pill and using condoms as well as you don't know how safe he is so just be careful that is all I would say.
I think you need some distance between yourself and this girl friend of yours so that you can find out which sex you prefer, she is just an obsession because you have felt vunerable with her in the past because of the insults she slings at you.
Just be strong and enjoy your life with other friends around you of both sexes so that you are not just fixating with one girl or one guy but you get a general overview of both sexes.
Your hormones are raging so if you feel a little off balance why not speak to your doctor as you could be having a hormone in balance and this can be sometimes easily fixed with other vitamins etc. I am not saying for one instance that everything is down to a simple pill but something like going on the pill may help your hormones so talk to your doctor first of all and get plenty of advice first before you may any sudden decisions OK.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni kissed a guy over the weekend and know i want to go all the way but i still have feelings for my best friend! am i going too fast? is this real? my life is so weird are my hormones just messing me up???
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): Your just turned on by someone insulting you, it's totally normal, though see if youre worried your gay which you shoudn't be, try finding a boyfriend and ask him to do it and see if you enjoy it.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (15 June 2008):
I think at your age there is always a big question mark over sexuality and people do experiment with both females and males and it is not until you have tried both that you actually know one way or the other so don't label yourself as a lesbian until you have tried both sexes so to speak.
You are being controlled in a sense by this best friend as she treats you like crap but there is this fatal attraction that you feel for her. She obviously knows you like her as we all tend to know if someone displays themselves in a different way and this has given her the idea that it is OK to treat you like dirt but it isn't.
Don't let yourself be treated like this and widen your circle of friends both male and female so that she is not the only person in your life. Draw back from her for a while and tell her that you are fed up with being treated so badly nobody does that to their best friend no matter what they think of them. A best friend is just that someone who you can trust and tell them anything.
She is probably enjoying the attention she gets from you but abusing that trust and loyalty is just not on. Don't put up with it anymore.
The reason you think about this friend is the fact that she does have this control over you and she knows it believe me.
Just spend some time apart whether that is a few weeks or what but just don't be so reliant on just her OK. If you go to the same school or college then just make other plans for your free time and let her know that she is not the only person in your life OK.
Believe me you will feel better if you do some of the above and you will feel stronger to. Don't categorise yourself as one thing or another at the moment regarding your sexuality just don't rush into anything as time will tell honest.
Take care and here any time OK.
BFN
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