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writes:I really don't know what to do...My ex boyfriend cheated on me 3 times and then dumped me. He was the first guy I have been in love with and it has been 5 months since we broke up and I am still not over him and I constantly think about him, I really don't know how to get over him, I have been so hurt and I have now given up on guys. Please help, I'm so clueless right now.
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reader, lanaB15  +, writes (18 December 2008):
hi i can totally relate.my ex who i feel deeply in love with even though we were only together for six months,it felt lik eternity.he dumped me an saod we could still be friends and we were for awhile because i jus didn`t get over him yet.then i found out he had gotten a girl pregant an i saw the girl goin into his house one day.i was crushed an i still am i still think about what we had an because he lives on my way 2 pass out i am force 2 c his house every time i decide to go into town or jusout the area.i 2 really need some advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): hey hun this happened to me today.
he text me! and i explained to him i cant be his friend still, because i like him still and he doesnt like me.
so then he told me about this girl he likes, and who he's been texting, and it's just broken my heart.
i never realised how much i liked him till he's gone.
keep holding on it'll get better.
good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): omg girl.. that is the same exact thing that hapend to me except my bf cheated on me twice. but then he dumped me. omg i cant stop thinking about him either and he has been asking me to take him back and he's sorry but i cant. because i love him but sometimes i dont. lolso yea i sort of gave up on guys too it's been 2 months since me and my man broke up.i stil love him
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): Listen up a word to the wise.
Stop thinking about men, dating, sex, love, orgasm. for a while (couple of years). Have some single time, develop some interests outside of dating. Then you will become more desirable and self assertive when you meet you next guy. Also you'll be forgotten your ex.
Good luck
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reader, barcode12  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 hey. i think its normal to feel that way. all you need to do is just give yourself time and space. you need to accept the fact that you guys are no longer together. spend more time with yourself and knowing yourself better. im sure when the right time passes by, the right guy will come by and you'll soon get over him. my advice to you is never ever love a guy too much. cause you'll just end up nothing but just heartache. chill alright. get to know guys as friends, let them understand you. im sure you're gonna be moved by them. gd luck.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (17 March 2008):
 I don't think you should give up on guys altogether.
However, it may be a wiser thing to wait awhile before trying again.
You are at the age where you are in a torrent of horemones and emotions as are others around the same age.
The problem unfortunately lies mostly with guys in that they are usually less in control than girls and they are more likely to act on their raging horemones.
Usually it is the more irresponsible ones that do this rather holding to any sort of morals.
In this case it seems that he felt he could more use you as a tissue than as a living breathing person with emotions. He just used you and threw you away.
No, don't give up on guys altogether. Just do yourself a favor and find one of the best calibur. It may take some time but think about this, you wouldn't go to a market to buy tomatoes and just take the first ones you pick up. You will take them and look them over carefully to get the best ones you can find. Why not? You owe it to yourself. Doc
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (17 March 2008):
 My strong advice would be; don't give up on guys. A guy wouldn't be good for you at this specific moment in time, but don't let one bad experience make you give up on guys altogether.
First love or not, I'm afraid he was a bad apple. I understand why you are upset, because a first love is not an easy thing to get over, but I suggest you look at him and what he has done. Would you really want to be with someone who could do something so terrible to you, on multiple occasions no less? Someone who could hurt you so badly?
There may be two sides to this story, but from what you've said, this guy is a pig. You will find somebody loyal, and above all else; better for you in the future. And someday you will hopefully look back on this and realize that, while it was upsetting, it was actually a good thing that it happened.
Trust me, things will get much better for you. In the mean time, hang out with your friends and do things you enjoy doing to keep your mind off him.
Best of luck to you!
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reader, MissWalsh +, writes (17 March 2008):
 Hi hunny, i know where you are going through. Although i struggle myself and im probably no role model for u if you read my problems. i was once like you and i got over it.
My ex cheated on me, we were together 3years from 15-18 and he ended it on my 18th birthday leaving all sorts of problems behind. But in the end i got up and aced my alevels and did something for myself. I got to uni and made tons of friends and life was so much better for me. Getting over someone can just happen but u need to work at it yourself.
it isn't easy, it can hurt and sometimes all you want to do is curl up on ur bed listening to sad love songs cos u want to feel your pain. But dont.
My ex effected me more than i knew and in my new relationship now i am letting a guy who adores me pay the price for someone else's heartless mistakes. Dont give up on guys, some of them will melt your heart not break it. You are young like i am, im only 20, but you can smile and love again.
Take some chances, join clubs, say yes to something new, change your image, swim, run, dance, laugh and smile.
You dont need a man to make you happy, i promise you will get over him and realise that a man who does not realise how precious you are is worthless, let him cheat on someone else. Your a princess and a fighter and you are gonna make it, i promise.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (17 March 2008):
 Let me get this straight, you have been out with one guy, and now you have given up on them?
You are judging all men based on only one.
You were hurt, and you don't want to be hurt again. So now, the walls come up, and no man can gain access to you, because you are afraid of getting hurt.
You won't get hurt, but think about this: You will also miss out on guys who are amazing and who NEVER cheat!!!!
Five months is not a long time, if you really loved someone. Getting over someone takes time!!!!! Go easy on yourself!!!!!!
You have my condolences.
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