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writes:I'll try and make this as short as possible. I'm 20 and I am coming to the end of my first year in college (I left a few years in between school as I had a job at the time). Well I was out one night in town after splitting up with my boyfriend (The summer before I started college) and I bumped into this guy and his girlfriend. We got talking and they asked me to go back with them for a threesome. I was extremely shocked however as the drinks started flowing this seemed like a good idea. We went back to their flat and things started happening. We was all together for around 50 minutes when someone came in through the door. It was their flat mate and the barmaid where I had met this couple. They decided to go to bed afterwards so I went into the living area and got talking to their flatmate/barmaid. I was so attracted to her (I have never had feelings for women before) and we was getting along so well. She had a few drinks and one thing led to another. All I can say is I had an amazing night and couldn't have spent my first night with a woman with anyone better than her. Well the problem is she turned out to be one of my tutors at college. I was mortified when I turned up at the start of term and I cannot express how awkward this was. I am so confused and do not want to get her in trouble but I am crazy about her. Every time I see her I just think of the night we spent together and it sends shivers down my spine. What am I meant to do?P.s I have been tested for STI's since this and I am all clear and will never have unprotected sex again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2012): Please, trust yourself first. There are always some answers to get the way to solve every kinds of problem in your mind and heart. So don't be nervious or something like under-estimating self. Just now I got an idea about her. Maybe she has been having some worries like you. Think what you will do. Not what you did. However you should see this situation not only in the point of you but also her view. If it is hard to try, than make the time to talk about you, what you feel, think, and all about making you going crazy with her(I mean with that tutor). Have you ever heard 'honest is the best policy.'? If you express frankly you than she will show you the way to protect each other or try to save you at least. There is no left to say to you. I wish your good news. Cheer up! :)
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (20 June 2012):
 She can' get into trouble for sleeping with you before you went to college, but she would get into a lot of trouble if anything happened while you were there.
The best way to clear the awkward feeling would be to go upp and talk to her, just say hi and have a chat, it seems simple but i will really help.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (20 June 2012):
Hi there. What seems like the only thing you really can do, is to walk up to her after her lecture one day, and after all the others have left the room, and simply break the ice.
I mean by this, to say - "Hi (her name), how have you been?"
If it's been a while and she has forgotten who you are, you will have to introduce yourself to her again.
And just start chatting to her like a friend.
And tell her that you feel rather awkward about seeing her again, and especially as she is now your tutor, so you are naturally going to be seeing a lot of her.
And then see what she says.
At least then you can move past this uncomfortable place you are in now, and it will then cease to affect your studies.
You really do need to talk to her, because if you don't it will keep on distracting you from the reason you are there in the first place.
And you are probably paying quite a lot of money to do the course, aren't you?
Education doesn't come cheap, so you need to make the absolute best of it that you can.
Don't delay in speaking to this woman, as the longer you leave it and say nothing, the more it is going to affect your studies and you will end up falling behind.
And you definitely don't want to waste your money.
You will probably still go on thinking about her, although it will become less distracting as time goes by - once you have spoken to her.
Have this talk with her as soon as possible.
And sooner rather than later.
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