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writes: My boyfriend and I have known each other for ten years and have dated for about a month and a half now. We plan on marrying in a year. We have a very open and honest relationship and recently he told me that his ex fiancee informed him that she is pregnant with his child. They weren't goofing around with each other while we were together. He tells me that he told her he's not just going to drop everything with me for her because he loves me. I wonder if this is all just a stunt, and that she is just trying to get him back. My boyfriend asked me if I would possibly adopt this child. I don't know what we're going to do.
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reader, Babi +, writes (31 October 2005):
Many people do not have a relationship with their babies other parent. If he loves you like he said he does then he shouldn't feel the need to leave you.
If she is pregnant then they will have to come to some sort of access agreement.
Now adopting the child.....hummm, I somehow don't think his ex will agree with that one! Its completely understandable that this is not your child so why should you become the responsible parent? If you feel that way then explain to your fiancé that you have no problem him seeing his child but its not for you!
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reader, Topps +, writes (31 October 2005):
Firstly, your bf a bit premature asking if you want to adopt another women child. I would be mad as hell, if someone thought they could just offer my child to someone else. Second you are doubtful she is even pregnant. You say you have only been together for 6 weeks. I am assuming the ex is not showing signs of looking pregnant, so that means he has slept with her in the last 12 weeks at least. This guy has swung from one serouis relationship straight into another. I guess we are all different people and that why I can not understand a 6 week relationship being very serious, you havent had the yime to know each other intimatley, know matter how long you were friends before, it is not the same. What I would do, is end it, cut your loses. Sounds like you will set yourself up for heartbreak otherwise. If she isnt preganat and thins settle down, then maybe you and him to talk again, but I would worry about the stability/genuiness of a man who can move between 2 women so quickly. Rebound springs to mind
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