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*aydeeOfSorrows
writes:I have just moved states, and for that reason me and my boyfriend split up.I am heartbroken, and I know he is too..But its only been a few weeks, and he has already slept with a few other girls...I'm pretty devo about that, and Told him to stop contacting me.But he still calls me, and says he only did it to get me off his mind, and that he still loves me...I'm moving back to my old state next month, and I'm considering getting back with him.Is this a good idea?And some more insight into why he slept with those girls would be great, as it is driving me mad!Thanks
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 I think vmadman is right, he will of slept with those girls purely because men like sex, there is nothing more to it than that. He definately wont love any of those girls, or want to have a relationship with them.
Its totally up to you whether or not you get back with him - I guess it just depends if you can forget what he has been doing with these other girls. If you think you can put it to the back of your mind and forget about it then I'm sure you could give the relationship another go.
If you both really love each other and only broke up because you moved away then I think you probably should give it another try, you will always wonder what could have been if you dont. But make sure he gets an STD check first - you dont want to start sleeping with him then to find he has passed on any infections to you too!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, vmadman  +, writes (6 March 2009):
Its often hard for me to explain to girls I know that guys are all exactly the same, but it's the truth. From when we wake up to when we go to sleep we spend a good bit of our time thinking about sex.
Your boyfriend had sex because he's a male, and you'll be fortunate if he is one of the strong ones who can stop having sex with other girls while he is dating you.
I would bet $10 that he's had sex with someone since he's told you that he slept with those four, assuming he is a good looking guy anyway.
Although not always, sex is typically far less emotional for guys, we do it because we like it, not because we're in love with the girl.
With that said, I wouldnt be surprised that he had sex so soon after you and him split up. I would, however, wonder how he managed four girls in such a short period of time. The only sort of person who can pull that off is someone who is on a mission... four girls dont just happen upon your lap.
So, without continuing my boring rant, I would just try to ensure that I knew him, as a person, if I were you. Put things that happen while you're split up aside and figure out if this guy is honest, caring, and sincere. Also figure out if he is going to be faithful.
Sorry I cant be of more help.
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