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writes:iv been with my fiance for 7 years and been living togather in my perents basment for 2 years, she got sick 4 months ago and went to the hospital for 1 week then she went to her sisters house after the hospital just to feel better and come back home, now shes been there for 4 months and she feels better but wont come back home to me. she dont work but i do and i work at a restaurant and she can come see me anytime she wants but shes spending all her time with her sisters, i keep telling her to spend time with me on my days off and she does but is always on her phone texting and looking at the time and is always telling me shes tired and wants to go home around 10 11 pm but she will go out with her sister and her sisters boyfriend till 1 or 2 am and never think to come and see me at work even if its for 20 min, then she calls me and tells me im home and im going to sleep ill talk to you tommorow, that happend all the time. i dont talk to her on the phone for more then 10 min 2 times and i have to go to work then, i never get an text from her just telling me she loves me till i complan about it. im for 2 days in a week and i see her just 1 time a week now and its for like 4 hours only. i keep asking her if she loves me the same as she did the first time we met she says yes, and when i tell her how i feel im always doing the talking and not her, its like she has nothing to say. for 7 years we have been apart for 3 days the most but now she dont care, i spend all my time alone and then when i get out of work at 2 am i go home alone and just set there watch tv and go to sleep then wake up and do the same thing all over again.what should i do please tell me.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 September 2011):
 I know times are tough in this economy and a job is a job these days. But is it a good idea to be engaged while living in your parent's basement? I mean it sounds as if you're just trying to get back on your feet. How will you pay for a wedding? Then you two will be married and still living in your parent's basement? No offense, but it doesn't sound like the best time for an engagement.
Perhaps she got to thinking of all this and decided it was time to get out. Although like Denise mentioned, you deserve to hear it from her face to face. I too believe this engagement is over, sorry. Make sure you get back that engagement ring.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (2 September 2011):
 It sounds very much as if you should consider her to now be your EX-fiancee. Evidently that is how she thinks of you - she just hasn't come out and said so - which would be the fair and honest thing to do.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 September 2011):
 Stop chasing after her. Let her go... she may realize she does love you and want to be with you but right now you are not giving her the space to miss you...
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