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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I was telling a so called friend that my mum has depression and been getting counselling in the past.She then turned around and said that I must take her to Mind as people with depression are dangerous and violent, and she kept repeating herself.I told her that I was tired so that she would leave.I do not want to see this woman again as she has made many nasty comments in the past and she says she knows it all. Although she does not work she says she has many many degrees and as a reader she knows everything.I once asked her are you trained in medical, she replied, "no, but I know everything."I was warned about her but I make up my mind about people and do not listen to gossip.what I would like to ask you people to help me is: that although I do not want to socialise with this person I want to be able to say hi in passing eg, shops, street as we live near one another but I do not want her to come to my house. I would like to say hi to her and walk away just to keep the peace, without getting involved with her or engaging in conversation.Many of her comments has greatly offended me and she was even rude to one of my guest at my home and made bad comments. (my friend did not answer back to her and left the room as he did not want to talk back to her in case it upset me, but he has said he is shocked that I still socialise with woman.I have tried to cut down contact to no contact at all, but she just turns up in my door step and I find it hard to tell people face to face that I do not want to see them or make a polite excuse, so I let her in.So long as I open my door on her and answer my phone, she will continue to do so.Last night I could not sleep due to her comment, my mom is a gentle, loving person.I am also worried she may tell my mom that she thinks people with depression are violent and I want to protect my mom from this woman's malicious tongue.another time she told my friend "everyone who drinks alcohol also takes drugs".please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2011): simply stop returning her calls and e-mails. let her keep calling and emailing, you'll just not respond. If she shows up on your door - well surely you can look out the window to see who's ringing your doorbell before you actually answer the door, right? If you just stop engaging with her, she'll grow tired of the effort of contacting you, because it will be of no use to her any longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2011): Tact and subtly are obviously lost on this woman (or she'd be employing them herself) so you'll just have to be honest.
If more people were direct with her instead of pussyfooting about she might have been better behaved. Saying nothing only confirms her belief that she is always right.
I can appreciate not wanting to make an undignified scene, but if she is that offensive there is no point in maintaining a 'hello'-in passing relationship with her.
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