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writes:my man and I have been together for almost 3 years now. we have a 7 month old daughter as well. he never wants sex anymore! in the last month we've had it like 2 times. I try to initiate by changing up my look or playing but the second vaginal penitration is brought up he freezes. he hasn't had a job in like a year now because he can't find any. plus he's a stay at home dad while I'm at work. I admit, in the past I had a bacteria was formed in my private region from using scented soap. instead of me smelling like fresh cut flowers I smelt like rotten tuna and he hated it. after I got the problem fixed a year ago, nothing has changed he always says he's not in the mood. this is killing me sexually because I just want to feel love. plus were engaged and have been 4 2 yrs now and when we talk of the subject he tenses up and says its going to be a long time. any help plz????
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): oh, those pesky vaginal irritations! :) Glad yours is all better! Have you tried condoms, at least until he gets over what may be squeamishness? Maybe he's afraid of making you pregnant again?His being a stay-at-home dad to a baby might mean that he's just too darned tired for sex (let's face it-- lots of new mothers are-- sex is the last thing they want!) Maybe you need to budget for a babysitter once a week so that he gets a bit of a break. I agree that couples counselling would be a good idea at this point.
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reader, allovertheboardgirl +, writes (27 August 2009):
eek doesn't sound good. if he is freezing up/shutting you out counseling may be your best bet at this point. Would he be willing to do something like that? I think there's definitely hope for your relationship, but he needs to put in a little more effort to make things work.
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