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writes: I have been in a relationship with my fiance for 4 years and we have lived together for 3 and I love him very much. We have always talked about our plans for the future and he knows I have always wanted kids eventually (NOT NOW) and he said he has too. We were talking about it recently and he has now decided he doesn't know if he wants them anymore. I really don't know what to do. I love him so much but you only get one chance of life and I would love to have a family.Should I leave him? I'm 27 but wouldn't like kids to my thirties..help
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reader, Wildberries +, writes (8 June 2005):
Find out where the change of heart came from...and why!...If you think that for one minute he is really thinking NO and you are thinking YES..reconsider this union no matter how much you love him...the issue of children is especially sensitive and should NEVER be taken lightly..it is someone elses life you are talking about( the childs)If you want them, have them but not with some one who will wind up leaving because of them.
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reader, uklouise22 +, writes (6 June 2005):
I think that Your fiance hasnt changed his mind but hes just scared of making that final commitment, having children is so binding and eternal that He may be worried about how He will support You once You have them. He might feel to Young at the moment and may need a bit of time to adjust to the thought, but dont pressure him into having tham if he is not ready, otherwise he will feel trapped and will resent you later on in life for it!
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