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*oloved89
writes:Dear Agony Aunts, My fiance says that the reason why he is being so mean, acting out with so much animosity towards me is plainly because his mother is deceased (about 1 or 1 1/2 years ago). He constantly assumes that I have a dude coming over to my house while he's at work. How should I feel about this? Do I have a right to feel bad? Im not this type of person. He is continuosly bringing up my past. How can I come out and tell him my actual feelings? When I express my hurt to him, he thinks its funny (not like ha-ha, but like Im "pretending" funny) and says Im always faking crying. The minute I start crying he'll say something, or ask me a question... Then he'll say I was faking crying just because I stopped crying just to answer his question or talk to him.
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reader, soloved89 +, writes (5 December 2009):
soloved89 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the responses.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (4 December 2009):
 Hun, why on earth would you want to marry a man like this and spend the rest of your married life being treated badly because he has low self esteem and no trust in you???
Take him off to relationship counselling and if that doesnt help sort out the issues, well then, rather dump him because hes just not going to change!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2009): He's being mean to you because his Mom died?
I'm with Shan25, I can't believe you want a marriage like this. Things are NOT going to get better once you are married; they will probably get worse. Leave him now while you can and find someone that will treat you with love and respect.
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reader, Shan25 +, writes (4 December 2009):
Wow can't believe you want a marriage like that. it bad now but im guessing you think it will get better after the wedding. my baby cousin was in your shoes four years ago. she did marry him has three kids by him and crys every night asking god should she get a divorce. he belittle her stay gone all night and holidays and still accuse her of cheating. i hope things work out
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