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writes:My wedding is in one month and my fiance just admitted to me he had threesomes in the past. He is always talking about it, but I thought he was just kidding. Now that I know he is done it before I am so disgusted.. what do i do????
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): I think u have 2 differentiate from the past versus the future. if this is just immature bragging & he has no expectations of doing it again - then let him be childish. if he's hinting that he'd like to do this again you need to firmly tell him what you want. although it is every guy's fantasy to have a threesome my ex offered me a 4some & I turned it down becoz I didn't want 2 complete female strangers entering my our life & home. once u step thru that door I thought it would change me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): Thank you so much everyone!!!!!! Your insight was extremely helpful in sorting all these things out for me. When I get really upset a little input from a third party is really great!!!!! Thanks for answering my question
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reader, ccomm +, writes (28 October 2008):
When I was with one of my Ex Girl friends she offered me the opportunity to have a threesome. I turned her down because I loved her and didn't want anyone else to be apart of our relationship. If a guy really loves you he will turn down the offer because he wouldn't want to screw up what you have.
I could be stepping over the line but I think that you maybe looking for a reason to end it. If you are not 100% sure that you want to marry this guy don't freaking do it......... Don't ever do it just because you think have made to many plans or spent to much money that you don't want to waste and don't want to let people down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): You'll have to get over it, the past is the past, and he's with you now.
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reader, Cowboy  +, writes (28 October 2008):
The overwhelming majority of men fantasise about the idea of a threesome, and if your guy got the opportunity to try it out, it would have been weird of him to turn it down.
I'm extremely lucky in that I've had a few, and I'm very glad I did, but if I was with a girl who I loved, I wouldn't worry about not having one again.
If you think he's mentioning the threesome because he wants you to have one with him, then you may be wrong. I obviously don't know the guy, but seriously, most men want threesomes, and it's pretty difficult not to mention it if you've done it.
What you really have to remember is that it's part of his past. He wants to marry you now, and he almost certainly sees what he has with you as far more significant than anything he did when he was 'sowing his oats', threesomes or not.
He didn't do it when he was with you, he did it before he met you.
When he did meet you, he found something a lot more important to him, and now he wants to make that permanent by marrying you.
The intention to marry you means that he has accepted the fact that he will not be doing things like this again, but he is prepared to forgo that to be with you.
That means that being with you is better to him than having a threesome.
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reader, shania +, writes (27 October 2008):
 When you say that he is always talking about it, do you mean that he says it with fondness and that he loved every minute of it, or just wanted to confess all before the big day? Either way,you now know, but it did happen in the past and he is now going to marry you because he loves you. So if you are disgusted by his 3 some confession and feel that things are not right now, then you two,really need to have a long talk....with everything out in the open, remember it was in the past and we all do things that we probably regretted later on, we are all human.What you need to know is he wont want a 3 some with you and another 3rd party and only wants to have sex with you and no one else.
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