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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I was with my fiance for 3 years on and off..well in that time we have had numerous problems..for a while now I thought he really just has been using me for sex because all though he works and goes to school full time he makes little time for me if any. Emotionally he is not here for me nor my kids..I only see him for maybe 2 to 3 days a week, he will come by and have sex with me and leave after a few hours. We have went out 1 time this month on a real date. He talks down to me all the time and belittles me and says I cant cook or eat right foods and i dont take care of myself. He says im the love of his life but doesnt act like it. Finally last week was the last straw. All of the sudden his part time job has went to full time hours..he says he has to work xtra hours and taking other peoples shifts..well I have felt like i am the last on his list and I had a feeling he was lying about his work schedule bc I called him on his only day off that week and he said he had to study all night so He couldnt come see me...Well I called cus i text him 3 hours and no response..He answered and sounded out of it..I asked him what he was doing and he said studying..I said it sounded like he was asleep and he said no he was studying..i asked him if i could come by and help and he said NO that he didnt want me to come by..well i got skeptical bc he said 3 times to stop accusing him when i didnt..I showed up at his house and asked if he had been lying to me about late work hours etc and he said nothing was goin on..well my daughter had text me so i checked my phone and he knocked it out of my hand and it broke...then he went to step on it and i kicked him out of the way and his finger got jammed and dislocated on floor..well he broke my 500 dollar phone and didnt even care...he went phyco and started threatening me and punching walls etc...my daughters birthday was 2 days later and i had to take her birthday money bc he said he wasnt replacing it even though he broke it..Now i have to cancel cell phone and get early termination fee cus i cant afford to replace phone or get a new one cus i had no insurance on it..needless to say a few days later he said he would give me a few dollars for her birthday..im disgusted cus he broke my phone and I am stuck with nothing.I had to get a cheap prepaid phone and use her birthday money. and i am sick to my stomach..he doesnt care but texxt me everyday im the love of his life.now he txt he feels like he is dying to get me to respond to his messages..i wont..I feel damaged inside and out. Should i let this relationship go this time as he has ruined my daughters birthday and cell phone? and never speak to him again..?Please advise
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (16 March 2012):
 Time to move om. Any showing of violance either at a wall or a phone is too much. We are humans not animals, we can control our tempers he sounds like and idiot. better off without him I say.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (15 March 2012):
 Well, if the phone is what it takes for you to end this relationship with this jerk, then fine.
YES, you should end it with the guy who belittles you, only uses you for sex, lies, insults your abilities, isn't there or loving towards you or your kids and gets physically violent during fights.
Leave him. He's no good, and he's certainly not making your life any more positive, loving or fulfilling. You deserve much better than this scumbag. Good luck!
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