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writes:??? My fiance and i have been together for a little over 2 years now and him and i fight often. I have 3 children from a previous marrige and things are getting really complicated, i'm so unhappy because he verbally abuses me. I can't stand the tone of voice he uses with me, the cruel things he says, the fact that he intencially trys to make me jellious and acusses me of things i've caught him doing. He doesn't care whose around when he screams, curses and yells at me. Today our neighbors called the police because of all the dramma coming from our home it's a good thing the kids wasn't here. Any suggestions I love him but i'm just so tired of all the B---S--- and him being so desrespectful to me.
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reader, darksecretangel  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 HeySit him down and talk to him about why he is acting like this towards you. Maybe he has some issues or maybe he is just mean. Tell him that although you love him you cannot keep going through the accusations and the bullying. Its not good for you to experiance, this emotional abuse and its not healthy for your children to go through it as well. If it doesnt stop leave him, i know it may be difficult but its for the best for you and your children.Good luck x =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): i think he's no good.
i think either you sit him down and tell him whats up or [if he just wont be nicer, which means he cant respect you] just dump him.
is he always like this or does he just blow up?
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reader, huneygyrl +, writes (21 June 2007):
 Why does this sound so familiar. Honey, if you're unhappy, why stay in a relationship that'll make your situation more miserable? Especially, when you have three kids from a previous marriage? Do you have any children together?
From experience, if he's accusing you of things you know isn't true, he's the one doing it. I know, because I went thru it with my daughter's father. It was hard for me to leave because we have a child together however, I have to look at the well being of my daughter. It isn't healthy. It isn't healthy for your children. If he really loves you, he'll seek help. Have you both tried couple couselling?
I also been in a relationship with my daughter's father for two years and a half. We were also engaged to get married. Your situation sounds so familiar.
Please think of the well being of your children and yourself.
Let me know how things turn out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): Dont jump ship just yet. I say you and him plan out a specific time to hang out, get your kids with some relatives or something. Then ask him why he is doing these things exactly. Perhaps something is wrong with his work, or something between the two of you is unresolved in some manner. Either way ask him what is wrong so that the both of you can work on it. Its a lot easier to jump ship right now but if you work on things then you may not only get a better, fuller relationship but save the kids a lot of grief as well. Remember though, before you start talking make a rule that neither one of you are going to yell or curse.
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