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writes:hello i need help i have a really messed up thing going on!! welll i moved to mexico 3 years ago, i am now 8 months pregnet....i was with my ex boy friend and we broke up i started dating a good friend like 2-3 weeks later im i was not sure who the father was at first so i told the second guy it was his becasue i was with him! then when i found out my due date, i thought for sure it was the first guys....after seeing my doctor she tellls me it is imposible to be the first guy , so i told them both what was going on ...the hole time now either of them beleave me, the father , which is the second guy is being an ass hole to me. what do i do? we cant aford a perturity test they're 2000 bucks here in cabo! also iv been seeing this guy, who..i met while prego..we started to date , and then one day he tells me hes back with his ex! she cheated on him with another girl so that why they broke up! anyway we stilll have sex alll the time and he says he like me alot, he says he like us both, i know because hes with her he must like her better and because im prego, it would be hard for him to pick me with alll my responsabiltys, my family is trying to tell me to work it out with the dad of my baby, but i just cant see that happing. im sick of being 2cnd ...but i really like him please help me with my 2 problemsthanks for your time
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Sweetheart, you are involved with way too many men via your coming child and your heart strings. Do any of these men profess to love you and want to marry you? If not, leave them in the dust. You main responsibility is to that child in your belly. No one else matters. Do not marry the child's father if he doesnt love you. Dont marry him even if your family thinks it is the right thing to do. You MUST take care of you and your baby. Do you have a job? Are you already buying things that the baby will need?Stop having sex with a man who has another women in his life. The last thing you need is to have an angry woman after you and causing drama in your life. Get your feelings together and plan for your baby. If there is no man who loves you, has a good job to pay for you, him, the baby and a house then you are wasting your youth and time on someone else who is going to up and run.
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reader, flyingskirt  +, writes (8 July 2007):
You've got more than just two problems, and it'll take more than a website to fix them.1. as fate would have it, the one being the complete asshole is always the father. 2. stop sleeping with everyone while you're "prego". these guys dont love you, they're just getting some off you because you can't get pregnant by them right now.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (8 July 2007):
 Both in English and Spanish. In English, for the benefit of other posters, who can add their opinions and comment on mine. In Spanish, for your benefit, paisana.
No tienes un solo problema, sino varios, y me parece que el principal es que estás algo confundida sobre qué quieres.
You don't have one single problem, but several; and it seems to me your major problem is that you're a little confused about what you want.
No creo que tu novio actual te quiera. Si estás con una mujer embarazada, tienes que aceptar todo lo que eso implica, y no nada más disfrutar de su amor.
I don't think your current boyfriend loves you. If you are with a pregnant woman, you need to accept all that comes with it; you can't just want to enjoy her love.
No creo que puedas llegar a un entendimiento con el papá de tu bebé.
I don't think you'll be able to come to an understanding with the father of your baby.
Lo mejor que puedes hacer es esperar a que el niño nazca y entonces determinar de quién es, tal vez con una prueba oficial para determinar la paternidad. Además a alguien tendrá que parecerse, creo yo.
The best you can do is wait until the baby is born and then find out who s/he is by, maybe with an official paternity test. Also, I expect the baby to look like one of them.
Y, sobre todo, ya no sigas complicándote la vida. Detente por un momento y encuentra alguien que de verdad te quiera. Ese no parece ser el caso hasta el momento.
And, above all, don't continue to make a mess of your life. Stop for a while and find someone who will really love you. That doesn't seem to be the case so far.
Cuídate,
Take care
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