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writes:my family has chosen my ex wife side over mine in matters concerning my son and she always tries to cause trouble between my new wife and me what to do
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reader, Joe158  +, writes (30 August 2008):
 Hmm thats quite a situation. First things first is to seperate the matters into 3 things.
-Family siding with ex
-Exwife interfering with new wife
-Son matters
So firstly the Ex-wife problem. There are probably 2 reasons for her actions. A) She is jealous you have remarried and she hasn't (or she has and she doesn't want to see you happy). or B) She still has feelings for you and she's trying to tell you still. The only solution to this is to tell her to back off, you are in love with your Wife and you're fed-up of her interfiering. If she doesn't stop then possible Legal actions could be taken depending on how she interferes, OR you could just ignore her and keep your distance.
Next the Family Issue, your Family may have gotten quite friendly with your Ex wife and may still feel quite close to her. But do not worry, they DO still love you but are probably just being strange. As for their opinions over your Son, they have no authority to decide where he goes (am guessing a custody issue?) and it's just their opinions. You could mention that they are hurting your feelings and making you feel miserable and just to explain your feelings.
As for the son (again, am guessing a custody issue) it's up to the courts to decide where he is going to live. Try to remain calm whatever the decision. If it is not in your favour i would guess you would be aloud to see him on weekends or whatever has been established. In either case be thankful you still have your son. Spend as much time with him as you can and just have fun. As he grows older you will still be there for you, and he will grow closer to you. So in the end i think it will all turn out ok.
I hope this helps in some way
Joe
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