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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have just got out of a relationship that lasted just under five years. We were extremely close, never ran out of things to talk about, loved spending time together, shared many interests and we always put each other first. Things were, as far as I was concerned, pretty much perfect. I loved him so much that I couldn't imagine a life without him. As far as I know he felt the same.He then took a course to teach English to foreigners and promptly met someone else. One of his students. He began neglecting me and didn't seem bothered if we saw each other or not. This went on for a couple of months and I didn't understand why. When he told me he had feelings for someone else I was obviously devastated. He told me he wanted the feelings to go away and that he wanted me. Surely if that were the case he needn't have told me at all? He would have remembered what was important and focused on our relationship.We are obviously not together now. I am so very afraid for the future - he was my closest companion and he abandoned me. I'm lonely and I don't know how I can trust anyone again, or if I will even meet someone. I can't imagine being close to anyone the way I was with him. Are all men going to hurt me? I just don't know anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): It make's me mad, he rides of into the sunset with his new woman and leaves you with trust issues. Just don't rush into anything with another guy. However, remember one guy hurt you out of millions available.
Spend time alone, this maybe for up to a year or so, get your mind back together. When you are ready again, start making male friends and eventually dating, don't start having sex out of loneliness it will mess you up.
When your ready to start again remember it's someone new, give that person Trust don't let your past ruin your present.
I went through similar break up and made mistake of rushing in to next relationship this proved disasterous. If i could change one thing i would have taken my time getting my head straight.
Hope things work out for you X
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