A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am living out of my country 3 years ago, my family members are all in my own country and I don't have any relatives here, just my husband.This Christmas I decided buy and send some presents from here to my country to ALL my family members...And I am very upset because I didn't received any 'thank you" from any of them...I mean, they called my mom and said, oh say hello to A..and thanks for the presents....but they have computers in home, they have internet in home, they have my phone number ahd they can make a international call (They are not poor...) Why they didn't send me a email? Why they didn't call me??, I am very mad becuase since I am very alone here, I remember them with love and I just wanted they know with that small presents that they are in my mind and heart. After 3 weeks since they received the presents, one of them sent me a email, saying "happy new year" and bla bla bla...but no thank you or anything!!!I am not that kind of person, if I received something from somebody else I said Thanks. I think I deserve the same.What should I do??
View related questions:
christmas Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): I have just re read your question and you said they called your mum and said to say thank you to A, so they have said thank you, just not as you would of liked them to.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): *Is so hard to make a phone call or writte a email to say thank you..I don't think so...after 2 weeks....!*
Sometimes people get caught up with other things and don't do what they should do and even forget that they haven't. I'm sure they are not doing it to be rude.
If you are getting this upset about it then maybe next year it would be an idea not to send them a present.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): Did they send you presents? I think that is horrible not to acknowledge a gift, I always do whether it be from family or friends. I'm sorry. I would ask all of them why they haven't thanked you. Take care.
...............................
A
female
reader, AnnaW219  +, writes (11 January 2011):
 Do you know, i never got a thankyou from my family members either and they live in the same contry as me and i gave it to them face to face i confronted them about it and they said im awfully sorry but with christmas and new year its just so busy at this time of year. I advise you to do the same thing If you still don't get one, as them the problem and wait for a reply if none comes then what else could you really do you tried your best they will eventually come around after all there your family.
...............................
A
female
reader, InLoveW/Love +, writes (11 January 2011):
Did you send the presents to make them happy or make you happy?? If it was to make you happy then you don't need to send them gifts. Just reach out and call them. People have busy lives. So maybe you have to reach out first a couple of times. The more you talk to them(no matter who calls who) the easier it will be for them to pick up the phone and call you, or email you or whatever.
With that being said there behavior is very rude. I think you should definitely confront them. But nothing like "I took the time to send you a gift! Why didn't you say thank you!" Rudeness cannot be cured with more rudeness. Try something like "Hey long time no talk! Your welcome for the gift by the way lol. I sent it because i missed you. Call me or email sometime?"
If you get no response then more effort on your part isn't necessary.
Good Luck!
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): Well move on forget them dont bother to contact them and find someone here who enjoys you for who you are. People who are ungrateful are not worth thinking about no matter who they are. Spend your money on yourself and enjoy life here and in the now.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): Do what my step mom did when I didn't thank her for the awesome outfit I'm wearing right now. "A kind thank you would be a sign of courtesy" Maybe that sounds a bit harsh, adjust to your temperment. But there is nothing wrong with expressing your feelings about this. Frankly I think that people are losing their manners as we progress in the information age.
And I can tell that your presents meant alot for you to send. You sound like an awesome person. Communicate your feelings with them, I'm sure they are going to reciprocate.
Take Care.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, They received the presents because my mom gave that to them.
Is so hard to make a phone call or writte a email to say thank you..I don't think so...after 2 weeks....!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, that's what I did, I sent a email and I asked if they received the present and I was waiting for an answer because I was feeling so bad about it.
One uncle sent me a email back and said, thank you.....
nobody else...that is sad. I just don't want to send anything for anybody never.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): Are you sure the presents arrived?
This isn't really about them not saying thank you, you're homesick. Talk to them and sort out regular contact, taking it turns to call or use the computer.
...............................
A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Well i agree with you it is only right to thank someone for going to the effort of sending a gift it shows them that you still think about them. Im guessing though that they dont even no that they have hurt you. I think you should tell them how you feel, not in an argumentitve way but just say you felt hurt that they didnt acknowledge your presents and said thanks to you. If you dont say it to them it will just build up inside of you and make you more upset and angry.
...............................
|
