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writes:Hi, I come from a rather conservative background, where caste based discrimination still exists.Around 7 months ago, I landed myself, my first job. where I met this guy, almost 10 years senior to me and we hit it off instantly. I've been seeing him from the past 6 months now. Recently, he proposed to me and I accepted. But, my family seems to have problems accepting him,They cite he being from a lower caste and economic strata than that of ours as one of the major reasons.Also, our age difference is of a huge concern to them as well.Such blatant dicrimination by my family, hasn't gone down well with me. I've been having clashes with them ever since, on this regard.Even though my family has been rather rude to him, he's been understanding and supportive throughout. I don't want to give up on him. What do I do?How do I convince my family otherwise?Any reply would be appreciated. Thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): You're dealing with a very old system of discrimination that simply puts people into various classes and leaves them STUCK there for generations. It's a horrible system, and one not worthy of the twenty-first century.
Start your life together, save you money, and move to a country that's more open minded and less predigest.
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reader, zoobug  +, writes (4 September 2010):
More than likely--you're not going to convince your family. When people/families have such strong views on these topics, the chances of changing their minds are slim to none. Instead of trying to make up their minds for them, give them some time to take everything in. Do NOT give up on your man. You love each other and that is what's most important. Be thankful your fiance is so understanding with your family. Talk to your family. Ask them to put aside their views or at least attempt to act civil when you two are around. Let them know that their ancient beliefs are not going to change your mind about how you feel towards your man. Try bringing him around more often, or do things involving him with your family that may get them to see who he really is, rather than what they're programed to believe. Whatever you do and whatever your family chooses to behave like, remember that you love this man and love is something you don't just pick up off the street any day of the week. Hold on. Good luck!
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reader, rcn +, writes (4 September 2010):
 You two have your relationship, let them come around on their own time. Be blunt. Let them know that he is who you choose, and whether or not they do, that will not change. Spend more time with you two and less time with family. If they want to be part of the life you two share together, leave that invitation open. Don't push it on them, let them come when they are ready to.
Remember, the heart and love do not have financial boundaries, but those who's hearts are full of love are truly the wealthy.
I hope this helps. Take care.
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