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writes:my ex said we should stay mates when he split with me but ive not heard from him since im new to the dating stuff,and i over heard a mate of his saying that my ex wont come to the pub anymore because im there,i want to carrie on going to the pub but feel really guilty that he wont go there anymore because of me, and im often sure his mates say things about me when im there is there anything i should do,i do enjoy myself when im there but deep down still thinking ive done something really wrong Does this sound stupid i need help really thanks for your help. lou lou
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (10 February 2008):
 Also, just thinking about this... Perhaps he isn't ready and the fact it's "our" pub as you put it brings back all those memories of you two together too?
Just an afterthought :)
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (10 February 2008):
I agree with baby duck. You shouldn't feel guilty at all. Perhaps he isn't comfortable with bumping into you? It can be a bit awkward with "history" there. Maybe he just needs time and is keeping a safe distance for the time being?
At the end of the day though you're not together and you're both free to go wherever you want. So the fact he chooses not to go there is, as baby duck quite rightly puts it, his choice.
Don't worry and who cares what his mates say :)
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reader, As it is +, writes (10 February 2008):
Hey, it's his choice not to go, not yours! Maybe in time he'll go back there, but if you're enjoying yourself then you carry on! How would you feel if he walked in with a new girl?
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