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anonymous
writes:I broke up with my ex 2 months ago.The problem is that I lived with my ex for one year and we also jointly owned a house. I decided to break up with him after 4 years because emotionally he was not giving me what I needed. It was not a clean break-up in the sense that we had lots of financial things to sort out afterwards. 6 weeks after the break-up I met a wonderful man. He is everything I could ever dream of. Now my ex is still contacting me over silly things, continues to email and sms me. I don't want to hurt my ex but I am fed up with his nonsense. I want to have closure and move on. I don't want the past to influence the potential future I have with this new man in my life. I am also scared and wondering if this is a rebound or what? Please give me some advice. Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): Don't be afraid to hurt his feelings. But if you really feel threatened, don't hesitate to get a restraining order and maybe a spray can of mace or pepper spray... just in case.
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (3 May 2007):
 Ignore this guy and change your email address and phone number. Tell him to stop trying to contact you, otherwise you will tell the authorities and get him for harassment!
Good Luck to you dear!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): I was with someone for 5 yrs., and broke up with him abt. a yr. ago, I have since had a baby with someone else, and he knows & is still bothering me. He would call & bug me about something as small as a glass dog figurine that he previously didn't care about. Well, I think he's obsessed w/ me b/c he is now trying to claim the baby as his, when all along he knew there was no chance it was his. So what you have to do is get a personal protection order if he won't leave you alone. Don't give him too many chances to leave you alone, he may do something to you. You never know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): Ignore his pesterings. He might feign being hurt because he believes his survival depends on you but pests that are ignored learn not to rely on pestering and can eventually become more giving and loving. This might be tough for you, much as it is for a parent ignoring a child's cries for attention, but think of it as educating him.
Pester him for anything he rightly owes you, eg money.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): you have to be stern with him thats the only thing I can think of you have to tell him straight you know? you don't have to hurt him just tell him the truth tell him that you want to move on and its for the best. hope this helps xxx =)
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