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writes:My ex girlfriend and I broke up about a week ago and wants to be good friends even after our breakup. Yet she rarely talks to me anymore. It was a long distance relationship that put a huge strain on our relationship. Do I need to give her some space before we can actually become friends or are we destined to never see or hear from each other ever again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYea, it is extremely cowardly if that's the case i'm just gonna completely not talk to her at all.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (19 September 2010):
A lot of people say that they want to be friends after breaking up but that doesn't mean they're sincere about it or willing to put in the effort. Being friends with exes doesn't work a lot of the time, but it's possible. It can be little awkward at times, and might not be as close as friends that didn't have a history, but it can be done. But it requires that both people are interested in it and put in the effort. If you find yourself putting in the effort to get nothing in return, chances are she doesn't care about being friends as much as you do, and in that case it won't work. Just back off then. Either way, it's a bit soon to tell as you just broke up. Give it some time and only talk occasionally.
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (19 September 2010):
 Friendships between exs never work, like that facebook group says "staying friends with your ex is like keeping a dead dog" - its unheard of.
It wont work as, you still love her and want to make a plan how to get her back, already your upset she isnt talking to you enough. As your not her bf anymore, you have no say in anything. Soon she will be out with out guys and you will be even more upset.
I wish you the best in getting over your ex, but in order to get over her, you cant keep talking to her sadly :/
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (19 September 2010):
You should try to give yourself some space, not only her. I know you don't want to lose her but you have to accept that this is a possibility that comes with breaking up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYea except she was the one who wanted to stay in contact and I'm trying my best to keep it that way.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 September 2010):
This is probably a sign that it's too soon, and you shouldn't stay in contact anyway.
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