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anonymous
writes:Me and my ex-boy friend been broken up for almost 4-5years and he is in another relationship still with the girl he was cheating on me with. He want's us to be friends but it's hard for me because we had history. I get a feeling that he regrets are break-up even though he was the one who needed his space, so he was the one who asked for a break. This guy seems so confused to me, he insist that we be friends. I had got my number change twice and he got the number from his mother. I keep in touch with her from time to time because I really cared for his side of the family, plus we grew up together and my family knows his. So anyways when he see someone on my side of the family he ask how is she doin or do you have her number. But I tryed to be friends with him but it just didn't work. He would come over and we would flirt with each other, I would sit on his lap just to see if he would say that's not right because he is in a relationship, but he never do.He plays in my hair, we even been with each other under the sheets a couple of times sence he been with her. I never here him talk about how happy he is with her. He would say things like I rushed into that or I got love for her, Im not ready to settle down. So Im confused can someone please give me advice? I change my number again because I want this to be over, it's been to long and I care for alot I just thought he would come around but it's the same bull-s..t. Im so ready to let this go its been five years almost I done with everything and I love his mom a lot but I got to let her go tooo!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): Damn, this sounds such much like my situation it hurts.
It's been 3 years since we split, and 2 years since he's been going out with his present girlfriend. All I can say to you is what I say to myself every day.
Why are you wasting time with someone who obviously doesn't want to be with you. Cause if he did he would be with you rather than someone else.
Close the door, cut all contact... and tomorrow start looking for people who can give you all the love, time and respect that you need to build a better future.
Five years is a lot of pain, honey and you deserve to be able to forget, forgive and move on.
Good luck
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 You have already answered your own question! You have been maintaining this messy relationship by staying in touch with his family, and by continuing to see him and "play games" with him. Lets call a spade a spade...he is having his cake and eating it too - and you are allowing it.
Why don't you send him a clear signal and cut all contact completely (yes, even with his mum). The only way you are going to be able to move on is to dump the baggage.
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