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writes:20 years ago I ended a relationship when I moved out of state. I never fell out of love with my first love but ended up marrying someone else 10 years ago. Last year I began my seperation with my husband, at the same time unknowingly my first love was separating from his wife.8 months later I found him and contacted him on facebook, we hit it off, and talked 6-8 hours per night for a couple of months, then we met up and spent four days together. About a week after I returned, my ex husband got word that I was dating someone, got a hold of my phone and called my first love and told him that we were still together (not true) I told him it wasnt true but then a month later, my ex contacted him again and threatned him, so he broke it off with me. It has been a month and my first love wont even talk to me, text me, or respond to my emails.I miss him terribly, but he wont respond. I cant help but check his myspace page daily and found that he changes his moods to match my myspace page daily. Is he doing this to piss me off, or might he still care, I dont know what to think. I have cut off contact for the last two weeks, havent even tried to email him or anything, giving him space. WTF?
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (14 June 2009):
 It seems like he still cares but is scared. Your ex is a nasty piece of work. Give it some space, both for your potential guy to stop freaking out and for your ex to stop being psycho (hopefully). Then, after a while send him a message that you still miss him and care about him.It's a tricky situation. Good luck.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (14 June 2009):
 I can understand why he is putting distance between you two. Your husband has threatened him twice. If it was only once it might have been ok but now he knows he can be 'pursued' by an agressive, angry and potentially violent husband. Its a lot for him to deal with and it has clearly shaken him as it would anyone. I don't think you can give him any guarantees that he will not be at risk anytime in the future if he does have a relationship with you. Its quite likely that you have lost him...sorry but I can't see a solution.
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