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My ex still wants to hold me close, even although we've broken up...

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Question - (18 February 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 18 February 2009)
A female New Zealand age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My ex, still wants to hold me and be close to me, he broke it up, should I allow this as I love him and want him back or tell him to leave me alone.

I'm confused coz I know he loves me but someone got in the way of our relationship and he said he can't be with me (mom from hell)

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A female reader, Blue_Angel0316 United States +, writes (18 February 2009):

Blue_Angel0316 agony auntIt's probably because he does still care alot about you. He feels close and comforted by this form of affection. It however doesn't mean that he will come back into the relationship. I would suggest that you just give him a little space and time to reflect. He needs to get his emotions in check and decide for sure just what it is he feels and wants from you.

It's only fair to you that he should work out his feelings and understand why he let someone else interfere in your relationship. He must make a clear choice about the situation based on the real facts and he must face this all head on. Once he has given himself the time to figure it all out, it is hopefull that he will choose to correct his behavior and seek you out.

If the events prove that he can be trusted and all is forgiven, you can work on the relationship at hand. Continue to be his friend but don't push the relationship issue. Men usually can't take being pressured. This can also be the case for a woman but it's men who are usually the more distant and aloof when pressured.

If you both come to terms and work on the friendship, who knows, in time it will perhaps become a more stable and respected relationship. You do need to stand up for yourself, without putting him on the defense. No attacking! Talk things out and let it go!

When Love COMES there is no denying which will satisfy the thirst, than that of a love which you have placesd FIRST!

GOD PREVAILS! SEEK HIS WISDOM!

God bless,

Blue_Angel

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