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writes:last summer i was going out with this guy that i really liked, and i invited him and his best friend to come play baseball with me and my little brother. i kinda started to like his friend... me and my ex-boyfriend broke up a few months ago and i hadent seen him or his friend till like last week. i still havent seen his friend though.when i was hanging out with my ex we traded cell #'s and he kept going on about how pretty i was and he kept trying to flirt with me. i dont really like him anymore but i think he still likes me.3 days ago i found his friend on FB and me and him have been messaging each other and flirting BIGTIME. he sends ;)(thats a wink) :P(thats a smiley with its toung out) and :*(thats a smiley blowing a kiss)and all those other ones with almost every message, and he messages me whenever i log on and hes on. also he keeps saying we should hang out. i think he likes me to, but again im not sure.so do you think he likes me? and if so, what should i do? hes my ex's best friend and my ex might still like me
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reader, xnickx  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 I stand by my previous answer.As far as momma cant stop you, well, maybe she cant but if she finds out mammas gonna have a serious problem. Sneaking behind her back, is not the smartest idea. eventually you'll slip and get caught.Your best bet is to try to convince her that he isn't a horny teenage boy with overactive hormones.Which, keep in mind will be no easy task, especially if she knows you like him because she knows you will say anything to be with him.With that said, your mom seems like shes looking out for you, so id assume shes pretty understanding too. I think you better focus your determination this direction, and maybe it will pay off.You know your mom and this boy better than any of us, so im not sure any of us can tell you what to say to your mom to make her come around.p.s. im a 17 year old guy with an over protective dad :) ive been here so this is all personal experience.Nick.
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reader, mr toyboy  +, writes (17 July 2010):
This is wrong, dating an Ex's friend is wrong, because it will look like you guys were doing stuff behind his back while you guys were spending time together.
Just think about it, if someone does that to you, will you like it?
And it seems both of toy are using your Ex to get to spend time together, if he finds out, he wont be that pleased.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay update:
turns out my mum hates my ex's friend and im not allowed to hang with him cuz of something that happend over a year ago, accidently! we were in the pool and he slipped and ended up grabbing my boob for support. wondering how i can convince her that he isn't a "horny teenage boy with overactive hormones"
we made plans to hang out but it was behind my mums back.
he was gonna go over to my exes house -who btw i learned IS over me but still slightly attracted to me- and my ex was gonna come over to my place and get me, while his friend stayed at his house, so we could hang out (all 3 of us) without my mum knowing it wasnt just me and my ex.
that plan failed because when i told my mum i planned on hanging out with my ex tomorrow, she decided that she wanted to go over there and have a few drinks with his parents.
so, ya mission failed.
i am determind to hang out with this guy and will stop at NOTHING! (aka, my momma cant stop me)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionupdate!
my mum hates my exes friend, and banned me from hanging out with him, cuz last year we were in the pool and he randomly jumped at me and i jokingly accused him of trying to grab my boob, my mum thought i was being seriouse.
we had made plans behind my mums back that i was supposedly going to hang out with my ex. he was gonna go to my ex's house and my ex was gonna come pick me up so the three of us could hang, without my mum knowing about the third person. (my ex has no idea that his friend and me have been flirting)
sadly, those plans had to be cancelled when my mum decided to drop me off there and stay over to have a few drinks with his parents.
ALSO, my ex has dated a few other people since we broke up, and he claims he always remains good friends with them, but honestly i am now sure that he does still have some feelings for me. but is totally over the breakup.
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reader, xnickx +, writes (17 July 2010):
To me, it sounds like he likes you.
Is dating an ex's friends right? well theres nothing really wrong with it. No one can tell you who to date.
This situation is very delicate. You have to weigh the fact that any actions you make could very well break up their friendship, lose your friendship with your ex, and then if this new guy doesnt work out he may feel resentment to you also for ruining his friendship.
if i were you, i'd wait until the smoke clears and your ex is well out of the picture. I know its not always, heck its never pleasant to wait like this, so to speed things up while still keeping his friend interested tell his friend you think there could be something else between you two, but not until he helps you hook your ex up with someone new. To get his mind off of you and help him move on. (you dont have to tell that last bit)
Plus it will be a bonding time for you two too.
Good luck,
Nick.
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reader, romany  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Personally, I;d never go out with an ex's mate, same way i'd never date my mates ex's.
But your ex is your ex, I understand you dont want to upset him, but it wont upset him as much as it will when he finds his mate is after you!
I think you should wait till the mate gives you more of a clue of his intentions towards you, it may just be harmless flirting, but i doubt it, I think he's interested, and then ask the mate what your ex thinks of his interest towards you. If you decide to take the mate up, and date him, I would also talk to your ex about it, especcially if you still want to have a friendship with your ex.
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