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writes: My ex called after 4 months of break up.He dumped me and was very mean when he broke up with me. He said he misses me and still loves me. I'm always the one he wants to marry. I told him I'm not going to get back with him because he hurt me too much. I know I can't give him one more chance to hurt me, but I still love him and miss him too. Now im just miserable. I have to let go someone I love and was with for four years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2013): If you want to give him another chance , tell no sex till after marriage, this way you will know if he is for real and he is there for the long haul. Woman generally are ruled by their hearts and not their brains and we give into our emotions , so if you do, it must be on your terms.
Best of luck because you are between a rock and a hard place.
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reader, gmailzero  +, writes (2 September 2013):
i think he is back because he couldnt find someone else. some say WHO LOVES U WILL COME BACK. but i think WHO LOVES U NEVER LEAVES. so he can hurt u again and again...
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (2 September 2013):
The first year is always hard. You miss a lot of things that were great while together.
Don't go back......it will hurt even more the next time.
I wish you all the best. Because after all, isn't that what you deserve?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (1 September 2013):
 What have you been doing for the past 4 months? Wallowing or have you been trying to heal?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (1 September 2013):
 He's probably bored and horny, four months is about the mark for loneliness to set in and for a person to discover that it's not always so great on the other side of the fence. Don't get sucked in unless he's battering your door down on bended knee with a ring in hand.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 September 2013):
 Continue to be strong... and let him remain "your ex-".....
WHY put yourself in his grasp again? ... when you know that it is likely to end up in a repeat of the anguish that you experienced last time????
Good luck...
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reader, Aunty Babbit +, writes (1 September 2013):
 Uncle CMMP is right. I think you need to carry on moving on.
He treated you appallingly yet he wants to marry you?
You don't dump someone unkindly then 4 months later decide they're the "one".
Honey, move on, you deserve more than this, he's playing mind games with you to massage his ego that you can't get over him.
I agree with CMMP the issues are still there and he'll do this again.
Chin up and move on to someone worth your time and love.
AB x
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reader, CMMP +, writes (1 September 2013):
He's somehow forgotten why he dumped you in the first place. If you give him another chance he'll probably remember and do it again. It's difficult (I've been there), but better to find someone else in the long run.
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