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writes:I am obsessed with my ex.I really hope someone can help me here and give me some advice. I went out with my ex b/f for almost five years. We split up in November but never really split up properly as we were still seeing each other and i thought that all we needed was a break. We have been together as recently as 6 days ago. I have found out now that he is seeing 2 girls at the same time. He tells me he still loves me and needs a few weeks to sort out his head. The only thing is that i took matters into my own hands and started finding out about what he was up to and found out about the 2 girls that he is seeing, one of them is alot older and is engaged to be married and living with her partner.Anyway i met him today by chance and we ended up having a huge fight and now he says he is not interested in me anymore and he hates me even though up until today he was still saying he loves me... I am driving myself nuts here and could really use some advice.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (31 January 2007):
 You should have respected him and gave him his space, at least that way he would have had a chance to miss you! Now you have done some detective work, found out about this other woman, have been agry and upset about it, met him and blurted it all out to him in one foul swoop. BIG MISTAKE!!! When will some women ever learn???
Give him some time to calm down, as he sees it, you've been devious and have been spying on him and he'll be really mad about that. Don't get in touch with him for at least a week then send him an "I'm sorry" card. Tell him you were a bitch but you were confused and upset and you really are sorry for all that was said. Let him know you miss him very much and would love to start again. Leave your phone number and ask him to either come round or give you a call if he still loves you too then leave it at that.
If he gets in touch then great, if he doesn't then learn by your mistakes and never bring a guy down like that again, THEY have feelings too you know!
Eve
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (31 January 2007):
 You have decide whether you want to put up with his nonsense or just nip it in the bud and move on with your life. If one minute he loves you and the next he hates you, I mean who can stand to live like that? I know which one I would choose. Good luck.
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