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writes:Something is not quite right about a friend's new boyfriend - should I say something? My friend met a guy on the Internet who then became girlfriend and boyfriend. They have been together for 5months. The problem is it can be up to three weeks before he calls her and rarely texts her or replies to her messages. He says he cares for and can see himself spending the rest of his life with her. He says the reason that he doesn;t call her is because of family problems. He says that she is the best thing in his life but if that is the case, why does he not contact during difficult periods. Are there really guys out there who would not want to contact a girlfriend during a difficult period? Does he really want to be with her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): He is not her "boyfriend" She is his booty call.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (31 January 2007):
 Guys aren't like us. The majority of them don't like talking about their problems. They just deal with them in their own way. Internet relationships are rarely as intense as real life ones. If they're not seeing each other all the time then their relationship isn't going to progress as fast as someone she lives in the same town as. Does your friend mind this lack of contact? If it doesn't bother her then just accept it. You'll be able to tell from picking random problems on this site that we all have different attitudes when it comes to relationships. Some people have to be contacted every five minutes or they melt into a puddle of insecurities while others are more sure of themselves and can deal with less contact (like your friend) Whether he's dodgy or not she has to see it for herself.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (31 January 2007):
 He may be married, not that into her, all kinds of things could make him behave as he does. But since it's HER boyfriend I don't think you should do or say anything unless she asks for your opinion.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (31 January 2007):
He could generally not want to scare her away with his problems. But it seems more like hes just useing her. If she met him on the internet, hes probly got loads of internet girlfriends. I wouldnt trust him myself. But its up to your friend to find out whats going on with him. Me and my boyfriend dont phone each other much (although we see each other), but its never been three weeks.
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