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writes:I guess i'm just a little confused as to why my ex (broke up 9 months ago) rang me after not holding a conversation with me for months. He owed me money and after he paid me all of it, (which i may add was like drawing blood from a stone) i tried to sever all ties. By initally thanking him and wishing him well...Then i being heartbroken erased him from my phone and pc. Just over a month later he calls me out of the blue, telling me about his current girlfriends brother dying...what am i supposed to say? Why should I care? he always said i was the only person to ever be honest with him...and he must miss that, but i'm not giving my attention and affection to a guy who threw me away like a piece of rubbish. Over the last 9 months i've realised that. Monday night i was out with my flat mates, it was about 1oclock and i heard my phone going off.. I realised that i didn't know the number, but i answered anyway. It was in a crowded street and i couldn't make out whose voice it was (to be fair my ex does have a distinctive voice that i wouldn't mistake) after a confusing 5 minutes of trying to figure out who it was, i eventually demanded to know... I asked if it was a guy who i'd been seeing but recently finished with, and he said no, then told me it was Chris (my ex). I was shocked at first...and a little apprehensive. He was ringing to say happy belated birthday...and it was VERY late... but it didn't seem as if thats all he wanted to say...maybe i'm wrong. He seemed like he wanted to talk, but because he has hurt me so much i wasn't entirely willing to ruin a great night out to satisfy his needs. He asked why i thought it may have been Kev (the guy i was seeing) on the phone...i told him we'd split up and he asked whether i had finished it, i replied yeh.He seemed a little too nosey for my liking....anyways the conversation drifted and i asked him how his new relationship was going... He said... 'Do you mean relationship wise?' and i said well what other way could i have meant...he said 'its ok'. I tried not to make it seem as if i was jealous, and that i actually cared! He then said...'shes not well' and i said 'o right sorry to hear about that...' After that the conversation on my part became a little irritated...why after all this time, ring me! To talk about his problems... So i thanked him for his VERY late birthday message, and asked him why he ever bothered at all. He said 'don't be like that' and i replied...'well u never did give a shit about me...so why should you start now...' after that he did his usual thing and coward away...saying he was going to bed.I left it like that.Any insights please help...
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (18 September 2008):
 just a drunken call!! or maybe he felt he could talk to you
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (18 September 2008):
 1am??? He was drunk. End of really.
C xxxx
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