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writes: Hey, I am struggling with an ex-girlfriend who I want to start again with. A couple of days ago, she wanted to go back out with me again. When she brought it up to me, I told her I'd need a little more time to decide on it. The next day, she brought it up to me again, but I still hadn't made up my mind. I feel like an idiot now, because now she went to this other guy who she liked, but not as much as she liked me. She isn't going out with him yet, but she wants to see if he actually likes her, and not that he's only in it to get in her pants. I want to be with this girl so badly, but it just seems that since I told her that I decided that I wanted to be with her again, she still wants to try this other guy. How can I show her and convince her that I care about her more than anything else that I have in my entire life? It would kill me to see her fall into the hands of another guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006): This is very typical, she is testing you, if you know this other guy, and you know what he is like then you can compare his charcter with yours and then decide if it would last.
To be honest, the best thing to say is that you love her unconditionally, if you do of course, and that you there for her.
Time wil tell, most women like to know they have someone to support them.
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reader, Tine  +, writes (21 August 2006):
 maybe you've kept her waiting for your answer for that long that she has thought that you were gonna say no, therefore she has went to someone else. Either that or she has been only to you just to see what you would say. i say you should tell her how you really feel and dont beat around the bush, then leave it up to her. By leaving the ball in her court its up to her to take action however be prepared to wait a while on an answer after all you left her waiting for a while
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reader, Juliette +, writes (20 August 2006):
 It COULD be that her manipulation had paid off and is enjoying seeing you squirm. Whether she is genuinely interested in the other guy or not, I think your best bet is to be approachable and friendly but to turnaround and look desperate now is playing into her hands and will leave her with power to keep doing it. Quite honestly, you are both playing at dangerous mind games and if this carries on you are not in for a happy relationship making each other jealous. It also could be that she is testing your love, but if she does care for you that much she will come back anyway, if she doesn't, then all you have lost is someone who plays mind games and good riddance.
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