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writes:Basically I'm going to visit my friends for a week...staying in the town where my ex girlfriend lives!!!!Recently I hear she has been asking people when I'm next in town etc and that she wishes she could talk to me.....I can't understand why she keeps asking about me since she has a new bf...only 3 weeks after we broke up!And on top of all this she has been round my friends house (the place I'm staying for the week) and I don't know what to do...I DO NOT want to speak to her at all, I have nothing to say to her, I'm not over her!!! And I'm worried she'll try and contact me coz of the amount of people who have told me she's asked when I'm next in town...I want to retain as much integrity as possible and give no reaction...Help!!!...any advice will be appreciated.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 Potentially awkward situation for you. Perhaps you could start by making it clear to the friends you'll be staying with that you have no interest/intention to talk to her.
Unless you want to send her an email to say you have no desire to speak with her and you hope she realizes that any attempt on her part to get in touch would not be welcome.
That would - should - serve as giving her fair warning. If she writes back and wants to know why, don't respond.
Don't know what else to suggest - except if she goes round to your friends' home, they don't have to let her in!
Good luck.
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (30 March 2011):
 My first reaction was to say don't go out for a visit, but it is a bad idea to let avoidance and/or other people control your actions.
If you don't want to talk to her, simply don't. If she tries to talk to you, just stay calm, giver her maybe a one word, dissinterested answer, and walk off somewhere inconspicuously. If she persists, just say, CALMLY that you are not ready to talk to her, and she needs to leave you be and stop asking after you. Remain calm, don't get angry or get nervous, but be firm in demanding your space. Don't talk to her until you are ready, or even not at all if that's what you want.
Also, all of these people reporting her inquiries back to you? Make it politely and (I cannot stress enough) calmly clear to them that you are not at all interested in having any contact with her.
Best of Luck and Have a fun trip!
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