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writes:My husband and I have been married for six months. we bicker a lot and this is the 4th time we have split up. I am 4 months pregnant. when we broke up three weeks ago we were still talking, but when he told me he doesn't want to reconcile I changed my number and told him to file a divorce. he filed for divorce two weeks ago, and I feel heartbroken. a fake facebook user recently added me. they have no other friends, and when I asked them who they were they said "I may not have any other friends, but we are connected." I think its my husband. does he want to reconcile? does he miss me? we still have five months until our divorce is finalized.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (1 July 2013):
 You obviously don't want to divorce him or else you would ignore any of his attempts to contact you (even as a mystery FB person) so my advice would be to call him up and ask him if he's willing to give things another go.
It sounds as if your relationship has been troubled with lots of game playing but I also know people often would rather put up with all the drama rather than be on their own...that is your choice.
If you think the mystery FB person is him...send him a message and get together again!
If you are scared to say anything unless he ends things for good...then welcome to...MORE GAMES!!!
(If he is stalking you, he could just be being nosey..guys do that, even if they don't want you)
Good luck!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (1 July 2013):
I can't imagine why he would tell you he doesn't want to reconcile and then file for divorce if he didn't mean it. I'm sure it was hard for him and it doesn't mean he doesn't wish things could be different, but it sounds like you may be in denial if you think he doesn't really want to divorce.
Sometimes it even hurts the person doing the dumping, but they do it because they see no other choice. With all due respect if you guys are having these kinds of problems this early, there's no possible way you'll go the distance. It's just not going to happen; marriage takes a ton of work and that's for people that are good for each other.
As difficult as it may be, it's probably best to just move on instead of dragging things out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTrue actions speak louder than words but he is very childish. I still love him though, and I want to say the right things to the fb user. I feel like he may be feeling me out to see if I still care. I don't actually believe he wants to get divorced..
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reader, CMMP +, writes (30 June 2013):
While it may be him, actions speak louder than words.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for you reply. I am sure it's him because he even wrote himself on fb living in California, and I live in a different state. He is the only person I know in Cali. No one else could have found me since they had to search my name explicitly. I haven't been with any other ex for years and can't see it being any of them. My husband is six years younger than me and quite immature. I think the reason he filed for divorce is bcz I got so angry at him and cut off all connections. Bcz for the three weeks prior he told me he couldn't file and didn't want to..maybe he's confused I don't know. But I know it's him on fb bcz it can't be anyone else.im not even in touch with any other male friends...and the reason he is not being direct is bcz I told him never to call me again in my life bcz I was so mad
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (30 June 2013):
Your husband has filed for divorce and if he was planning to get back with you, I think he'd be a little more direct than making a fake FB account and pretending to be someone else!!...that just does not make sense.
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