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writes:My girlfriend has a married guy friend that she spends time with, including having him over to her house for dinner and drinks and occationally going out to dinner with drinks. The mans wife is also her dear friend and supports the friendship that he and my girlfriend have. She always tells me when they will be spending time together so there are no secrets. I know that she would never cheat on me with him, but still I have a lot of jealous feelings about them spending time together. Sometimes he will go to her house and spend 4 hours at night having dinner and drinking, not leaving until after 11:00pm. She doesn't understand my jealous feelings and tells me that I should just accept the relationship that they have. She tells me that my jealousy just shows that I don't trust her and she gets mad at me for being jealous. Why do I get so jealous of their friendship and should I just accept that she has male friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): I see this is an older question so I hope you are no longer with this girl. It is very obviously that something is going on. You say your girlfriend is also dear friends with this man's wife. Tell me, does your girlfriend also invite the wife over to her place for a dinner for two and drinks? I'm betting she doesn't. This man's wife is either totally clueless or she also has something going on the side and likes that her husband is out of the house. You say that your girlfriend tells you when the man is coming over so there will be no secrets. I think she tells you when he is coming over so you will know not to be there. I wonder what would happen is you 'forgot' that he was there and just showed up, or if you 'accidentally' left something at her place that you needed to come by unannounced to pick up.
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reader, Bubsbeenthere +, writes (16 November 2009):
your gf is emotionally tied to this man and there is always more to the relationship than she will let on. I have just been there,done that. Do not wait until you know for sure.In every relationship,there are "red flags" that they will throw at you. If you feel in your heart that something is wrong in this relationship, then you should do what the song says,listen to your heart,it is never wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): Something is so wrong with this situation, an yes you should be suspicious of this friendship. I dated a co-worker for 4 years who had a so-called friendship with a married man. And let me warn you, don't believe that they are just friends. Because she did everything your girlfriend is doing. And like your girlfriend she would turn the tables on me and get angry, and accuse me of being insecure and jealous. I went through 4 years of mental hell thinking are they just friends, am I just jealous, he is a married man after all, and she is friends with his wife. Until one day while she was in the shower I picked up her digital camera, and while I was playing with it I saw a video they had made of my girfriend , and her married just my guy friend having sex. So here I am destroyed, hurt, angry that I wasted four years of my life on this lying B*TCH! So don't end up like me get to the bottom of this friend ship thing once and for all, and if she gets mad dump her!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): how certain are you that nothing is going on. you certainly won't be the first man to be hoodwinked by his partner. lets just say that nothing sexual is happening, how about her emotional affair with this man. being friends is one thing, being attached together as simese twins is really another story.at least you are questioning this relationship. why doesn't his wife. this friendship is a mere coverup of something more sinister. date nights and no wive around to chaperone them? something is amiss. i think your gf is fooling you and her. does she know that she is the other woman in this marriage? get to the bottom of this friendship. snoop and ears drop, but get finality on your gf's relationship with her married man.how long have you and the gf been together. the reason the gf is apparently "open" about her friendship is also a guise- she "tells" you beforehand so that you do not become suspicious. maybe i am just suspicious by nature but i smell a rat here. do your investigation or hire cheaters detectives to suss her out.
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