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writes:dear cupid, my story starts in 2002 i met what i thought would be my future wife, within six months we had moved in together and was happy when we planned a pregnancy and she gave birth to my little boy!! i was so happy but soon after she got depressed and told me she didnt love me any more but this hurt me more than anything and soon after she left and took my boy with her. for a year or so she kept intouch and i was trying to be a dad to my little boy. then out the blue she asked if she could come back, i was so happy to have her back in my arms and we was going to get married she was so keen on this, soon after this she said she couldnt cope with my depression and left again with my son again.this was 2004 btwi stayed intouch with my son and her , then last year i moved away from the place i lived and moved back to a area 90 miles away from where she lives, i see less of my child but always support her.a few months ago i met my currant girlfriend and all is well until my ex txted me while i was with my new girlfriend saying that she still loved me, i sent her a txt back saying i was with my girlfriend and that she knows i was with her that evening,me and my girlfriend have nearly split up over this txt message and i feel angry that she was the one that left me then expects me to jump when she says i love u still, my problum is i dont love her anymore but since the txt i havent spoke to her or my son and i dont know what to do.i feel happier with my girlfriend and dont want any hassle. what could i possibly txt my ex to say that i want to see my son but thats its over with me and her and that i have no plans to come back to her. with out hurting her feelings that much that she wont let me see mys sonthanks il look forward to your reply
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reader, doddster_24 +, writes (15 July 2008):
doddster_24 is verified as being by the original poster of the question just like to thank you for responding to my message
i have txted her what you said and all is ok at the moment and me and my girlfriend can get on with are lives and still have my son in my life to so great thanks.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 I agree with the other poster. Don't let her dictate with your child. Your being with her or not is separate from you building a relationship with your child.
For the other poster. The solicitor should have been turned into the court there. They have no actual legal authority. In the U.S. if a lawyer pulled that, they'd loose their license to practice law. The judge is the only authority to make that decision.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (7 July 2008):
 What a nightmare! Know where you are coming from, as 14 yrs ago, me and my kids dad (who i am no longer with) had a similar problem to you and your new girlfriend.
I was actually pregnant with our first child back then. His ex who had treated him quite bad, was a pain in the behind, to say the least. She moved 3 hours away not long after they split, and we visited his children a couple of times in a few months. Stayed in b & b's overnight. Then she decided she didn't want him having anything to do with their 2 kids. She had met someone new. They were 5 and 3 at the time. She even had her solicitor write to say to stay away. My boyfriend let it go and hasn't seen his 2 boys who are now 19 and 17 since. So all i will say is dont let her dictate about yor child. We didn't have mobile phones back then, otherwise his ex would of made our life a misery. But be firm but fair with her, be honest and say she messed you about too much, and you actually moved on! She will also learn from it too, so you will be doing her a favour by being honest. But if you have to, threaten her with courts if she starts using your child against you.
Good luck.
C xxxx
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