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writes:not so long ago i wrote about not being able to broke up with my boyfriend because he wouldn't let me, he would start crying and begging and that broke my heart and made me unable to do it. then a week or two ago i finally did it. But now i have a bigger problem: He won't accept the fact that we are broken up and that we are not going back together. He keeps texting me all day, sending me messages on facebook(even though i deleted him) calling me on the phone and saying over and over that we have to get back together and when i tell him i don't want to be with him anymore he says Yeah you do you know it. He even says offenssive stuff to me and later he apologizes. And this is literally every single day. I'm getting really tired and he starting to scare the hell out of me. Last time he send me a message he told me to be careful ( since i was mugged last winter, near my house, and i barely escape being raped) because he had pissed the muggers of my neighborhood. He said he did it for me, since he knows how much i hate muggers. I'm beggining to think he sent someone to do something to me. He's really creeping me out. what do i do ???????????????Pleaseeee help!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): You most definitely want to get officials into this matter. I had a boyfriend who was abusive and I finally left the relationship he went crazy. After that I was walking around my home town and he JUMPED ME from behind. I ended up with 4 stitches in my face... and I was trying to be a model... And 2 months after that he forced his way into my room while I was with another guy... Then he tried to convince my at the time boyfriend that I had cheated on him. He was crazy, he tried to do anything to make sure no one was with me and only he was an option. And since I never got a restraining order or had proof of any extreme physical abuse, when I pressed charges for him beating me on the street, in front of a restaurant, They gave him a plea bargain. Then he called me a year later, almost to the date and tried to WISH ME happy birthday and tell me he was sorry for what he did.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 You should look into a restraining order. That might finally get his attention. Do you have any large (i.e. intimidating) male relatives or friends who could pay him a visit and tell him to back off?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (30 September 2010):
 He is just trying to get a rise out of you. My advice is to stop taking his calls, don't reply to his messages, freeze him out. Block his number if you have to. The more you talk to him and react to him, the strong he will come on. At first he may really try to freak you out, but if you stay silent and strong, he will have nothing to return to. Also, be sure you are telling people (your family, friends) what is happening, taking note of things he's said or times he's called. If the police need to get involved, they'll need all the information.
Buy some pepper spray and/or take a defense class and put yourself at ease). It is always a good idea to know how to protect yourself, and it is a skill that will last a lifetime. In a dangerous neighborhood and with a creepy ex around, it would be especially valuable to you now.
Good luck, and stay strong.
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reader, jayne7  +, writes (30 September 2010):
call the police. tell friends, family and neighbours what he's doing. then let him know that others know of his inappropriate behaviour. he's trying to control you by scaring you....take control of the situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): plain and simple miss, call the police. Forget what emotions you have or had involved with the guy. You need to look out for yourself and personal well being. Also, make your parents aware as they protect at any cost. Id also block his number thru your phone carrier. If u have verzion, you can I know for sure.
Regards
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