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writes: I was with my ex girlfriend for 1 year. She's 26, I'm 40. She was in love me but never told me. I pushed her away, told her to find someone her own age. She met someone else, moved in with him and got pregant 3 months later. They have only been together for 5 months. The guy told his parents right away. She did not want the baby but now has no choice. She won't get an abortion and it's too late now anyway. We have been having sex ever since she met her boyfriend. I see her 2 times a week. We still have sex even now that she's pregnant. She says she loves her boyfriend and me but she won't leave him because she does not want people to think she a slut. She wants to be with me still. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2005): You are allowing yourself to be used by her..at the end of the day you pushed her away from you so your cant blame her for moving on and finding someone new and getting a new life..maybe you should think about doing the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2005): If people see her with you , they will think she is a slut! If she doesn't want to be a mother- you haven't made that very clear' then she should consider placing the child for adoption, or give the child to the bf to raise. This was obviously just a rebound fling for her, and I feel sorry for her child for that. If she really wants you, and you want her, tell her, and make plans. Maybe he will consent to you adopting the child, and no one needs to be the wiser. People talk, whether there is any truth to it or not. That should be the least of her concerns. She needs to start thinking about her child's needs and welfare, and if you love her, you need to start talking to her about that, too.
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reader, QueenB75 +, writes (29 October 2005):
Ok you're 40 years old and she's 26 meaning physically she's a woman, but mentally 12. You have to be the bigger person here and put your foot down. What are you doing still having sex with her in the first place? She's not going to leave her boyfriend since why should she if she's getting it from him and comes to you when she's bored of the sex with her boyfriend to get some. She's having her cake and eating it too while playing two guys at the same time. You need to be the one to end things and tell her that she needs to go back to her boyfriend and cut all ties with her and find a woman who's not on this merry go round nonsense. You're 40 you should be with someone who's ready to get married and be a wife not still acting like an immature high schooler. You cut it short with her and let her know to move on with her life. Don't accept any phone calls at home, work, or on your cell. Don't accept any emails or written correspondence throw them all away. If she shows up at your house don't answer the door. When you ignore her she will eventually get the message to go away and leave you alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2005): Dude. Keep away man. You are 14 years older than her. Sure he would keep you around just for sex. That's all the realationship will ever be. If she wanted more than that with you, she wouldn't even get pregnant with this younger guy. She is definitely in denial that she's a slut. The "I love him..but I love you too" trick. Come on guy. You are 40. You should know better.
Bottom line is. IF she wants to be with you-she would be with you everyday right now.
You are only there for her sexual gratification. It's sad to hear about women who do this, as I feel so grateful to not be in your situation.
BTW- that was stupid to push her away to find someone her own age. See the end result?
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