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writes: Just been dumped. Okay it was like 2 almost 3 weeks ago. But i still love him which i hate. I see him everyday coz my mates are his mates and so we're out together everyday.It breaks my heart, bcoz i love him still so much and its taking me so long to get over him.Help - Does everyone feel like this after he dumps you? How long will it take before my feelings for him ware off?Dont think i can stand it much longer =/xoxox Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): wow this seems like the exact situation I have right now, but what I do is really just to try and have fun and move on.
Occupy yourself, go hang out with some of your other friends, play some sports, go to the gym
aand..stay away from romance/date movies for a bit.
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reader, Butterflyfly  +, writes (26 July 2007):
 Parting ways with someone is bad enough, but how can you get over it when you still see him regularly.. there is no space for you to forget.. i thikn avoiding his company as much as possible and spendind time with new people more often, doing new things, would help..
I think the intensity of our feelings and the attachment for something/someone fades away when we realise we can have strong feelings -good -bad- in new situations, which means we are no longer dependent on the old situations/people.. does this make sense?
You gotta cut off from the feelings for him by whatever means.. and dealing with these tormenting states of mind one at a time, as soon as they appear. Simplified example: whenever you think of him have a cold shower or do 10 push-ups (okay, do one) , just to temporarily break away from that feeling. Work at it, you will be fine and time will heal you and you will be happy again, but it sounds as you shuld avoid seeing him for a while....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): It takes time for feelings to fade away. But it will happen. Give it time and give it patience.
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reader, skye +, writes (26 July 2007):
 Im sorry to hear that you feel so bad. It will pass, I promise. What you are feeling is normal. You are grieving for your lost love and only time will heal this pain. How long it lasts is different for everyone. Some of us get over things quicker than others, unfortunately there is no magic timescale. I believe the best way for you to heal would be to distance yourself from your ex for a bit. Just until you feel better. I know that will be difficult for you because of your mutual friends, but honestly it is the only way for you for get over him faster. Busy yourself with your other pals. Go out in smaller groups that do not include him; or even have a girly day shopping with one or two female friends. Who knows, you might widen your social network by branching out. Given time, you might even be lucky enough to meet someone else. You wont always feel this emptiness you are experiencing at the moment.In a few weeks you will feel strong enough to see and talk to him again. You might even ask yourself "what on earth did I ever see in him?" I know I did when I was in your situation.Whatever you do dont just sit at home brooding over him. You are worth so much more. Good luck. I will be thinking of you,Skye
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