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male
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30-35,
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writes:About 3 weeks after my breakup my ex called me and came over and was crying and said she missed me and couldnt eat or sleep. So we went back out and 3 days later after it seeming we were back in deep love, she breaks it off cause she doesnt want the stress of me going to college in FL. So okay, now Im not going to FL, so what now huh? So in the mean time I start talking to a girl that I thought I liked, but everything always came back to my ex, who I still love. So weeks went by and my ex adds me on face book and says she really wants to be civil and be friends. But we end up not talking cause I think she felt threatened by this other girl. So again weeks went by and I end up messaging her that I miss her so much. So she asks me a bunch of questions about why I miss her and what do I miss about her? so she seemed to care eh? and she was really concerned about my personal opinion on the other girl and how she was "prettier then her" (which I didnt think so) so she texts me 1st early in the morning and requests to come over and intentionally skips track practice to stay and talk to me and shes wicked friendly and she was being flirty and splashing water in my face from her cup and hugging me and kissing my cheek, haha she licked my face. She gets cold and wants to go in my room so we talk and she keeps being playful like we used to be, and we stand up and she wraps her arms around my neck and looks up at me like the old days. What am I to think? Shes doing all this even though she said "you cant expect me to feel the same way cause you miss me" is that a front? There are so many signs she wants me though. She came back to me before. So she tells me we can be friends and we can see if it goes somewhere. So Im all happy yet she later pushed my text aside after I ask her how her day is going, never got back to me so Im like, okay was that day she was over to only make me feel better? or was it benefitting me? why else would she ask all about that other girl and be so concerned? skips track soley to talk? So she uploads a very attractive picture on face book and im going crazy at this point. Knowing I cant have that and it used to be mine. So I say "i dont know if i can be your friend cause this is tourcher and u dont tlk to me so what am i to think?" she then says "well either your my friend or dont talk to me." right after she says "you know what just leave me alone please." Okay what the heck? did I just ruin my chances? what should I do to make things better? it feels im taking more steps back. if she said leave her alone, how can I get back friends with her? and then how do I get her back? im so lost.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (29 April 2009):
 Man, this girl has really got you!!
I'm so sorry, sweetness, but it just seems like she is playing some serious mind games with you. Obviously she is really enjoying the attention you're giving her and she's jealous of this other girl. When you tell her how much prettier she is than her, and how much you miss her and exactly what it is you miss about her, she feels validated as a woman. It's amazing to hear how much someone loves you!!
She seems to want to have her cake and eat it too. She wants to be free and do her own thing, but still have you and your attention around. I think that you should really just give up on this one. She's toying too much. She will probably just come for you even harder than before, but don't fall for it this time. Just leave her and find a more solid girl, someone who will really be loyal to you and who you can have a steady relationship with.
Good luck, sweetness!
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