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writes:When my ex and I broke up last month after 2 years together I messaged him to ask him if there was someone else. It didn't really bother me by then if he was or wasn't because he had been acting so distant toward that I felt by the end we had drifted apart. (My gut instinct was that something was going on, either he was very depressed or possibly seeing someone else). I really wanted to know to gain some closure I guess. My ex and I both felt like things weren't working at the time, but we never had an argument when we split so I hoped we could salvage a friendship from it. However, my ex seems to have totally frozen me out of his life (as have his friends and most of his family which really surprised me as I thought we got on really well) as if I have done something really wrong.My ex never answered me regarding my question so I messaged the question to him again and nearly a month later I still have no answer. I'm not holding my breath that he will ever contact me again. I don't know whether I offended him by asking if there was someone, or whether he was indeed seeing someone else and doesn't want to say that he was. What do you guys think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2010): I am the original poster of the question. Thank you for your answers. I do feel very confused right now as my has given me no reason why he felt things weren't working. The fact that he won't answer me as to whether he has got someone else would suggest that he has. I just find the fact that he hasn't answered me exceptionally rude. I mean all he has to do is just say 'yes there was someone else' or 'no there isn't' and then it could be left at that. I have concluded rightly or wrongly that by his not answering me he was cheating on me.
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reader, Luckshot  +, writes (10 January 2010):
 He's moving on in his own way, it has nothing to do with you in a bad way at all. Just let him get his life sorted and see what happens from there.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 January 2010):
He's done what he has to do to be able to move on. It doesn't reflect you. I froze my ex out because it was the easiest way of moving out. The best thing you can do is move on too, no matter how hard it is. I'm sure you're hurt and confused, but don't dwell. He wants to move on, and feels this is the best way. It isn't you.
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