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writes:This may be a bit long.I have been in a relationship with a guy for 3 years.We actually started by having a fun physical relationship while he was dating another chick (she obviously didn't know and she was the types that would only sleep with him after marriage but he wasn't keen on getting married to her or so he said. She was with him for 3 years and they were serious and she loved him alot). I began falling for him and I told him this and he told me he had feelings too but he didn't leave his then gf for almost 1 year after this. He was hurt by her behavior and used to tell me this only if i asked him..upfront he never mentioned her. Anyways he broke off with her..1 month later she came to know about him cheating on her while they were dating. I was a very good frd to this chick and i am still guilty for what i did.Now after 3 years of me and my ex being together we broke off and i have access to his facebook account. So i logged in one day 2 weeks after our break off and found that he had searched for her. He didnt contact her or nothing but just searched. Now i have apologised to this gurl before and she said she actually wanted to thank me coz she is in a much better relationship and the guy loves her a lot. She is much happier coz when she was with my ex he did flirt with other girls..now my ex has insulted me many times and treated me like his slave and not respected me...i feel disgusted at myself and now by him searching for her on facebook i feel like he never loved me...ever...i just want to know how to deal with this...i feel disgusted at myself and that the 3 years were a lie and that he just wanted me for the sex..i feel like the second choice and my self esteem is nowhere...she is much prettier than me and i dont know what to do
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Well sister, it is hard to feel bad for you... but I do. You should never have betrayed your friend and been the "other woman". He should have never lied to his girlfriend and cheated. And you shouldn't have gotten your feelings wrapped up in this cheater.
If he can do this to her, who's to say he can't do this to you? And girlfriend, NOBODY should insult you, treat you like his slave and make you feel unloved. If you do not feel loved and treasured by someone, you shouldn't be with them - end of story. And it sounds to me like he did want you for sex.
Who cares that he looked up a girl? I look up all kinds of random people. But, that's not the point. It is called a break up because it's broken. Break it off with this guy and don't look back. This break up is a blessing in disguise. Find someone who is just excited about being with YOU and makes you feel loved and good about yourself. And remember what it feels like to be the "other woman" - not so great! So learn your lesson and don't get yourself into that position again. Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, Princess _008  +, writes (22 September 2010):
i think You deserved what you did. it is often said u reap what u sow and so are you girl. you snatched someone's boyfriend and that's the same happening to you. you should have think before you expressed your feeling to that boy knowing he had his girlfriend. You are not being cheated. you have cheated that girl who was your friend.
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